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Guy on the street: *Stares at me*

Here is some useful advice for the ace/demi crowd around how to avoid sexual conduct in the early dating stages.

When seeing a new guy (or...any person), don't bother stating clearly at the beginning that you have boundaries around physical intimacy. He'll just think you're baiting him. Instead if he tries to touch you or pull you in, just punch him in the face before running away with his wallet.

If he laughs and backs off, return the wallet (if not, just keep running.)

I can confirm this is 100% effective in preventing forceful behavior, and establishing dominance over yourself.

Me- I love you so much I can't live without you

Him- I love you too also I have a boyfriend now

...

Me- Idk what this is but let's try long distance when I move back

Him- yes let's do it also I have a new gf now

...

Me- I love you and wanna move to the new city with you

Him- Ok I love you too let's do it wait I don't love you hah I'm dating other people wait don't go I still wanna try *tears* um why are you talking to me

...

3 years later:

Me- I love my cat

#1- I'm just here to set clear boundaries so that narcissists will misinterpret them as a challenge.

#2- I love art, languages, and making the world a better place. One time I pushed a guy onto the subway tracks for trying to force me to kiss him. I heart cute animals 😻

#3- I would list all my hobbies but it would be like drowning you in a tidal wave. Really I just want to know if you're a vegetarian and care about the planet.

#4- I have the personality of a macho man in the body of a small woman. Looking for my opposite.

#5- I'm unemployed and looking for a sugar daddy while I make ends meet. Otherwise I wouldn't be dating you fuckers.

#6- I have an old soul and am actually looking for a life partner. Wish me luck on here.

#7- INFJ, Taurus, Year of Monkey, Slyther-puff, Midwestern, Demisexual, heeeey macarena

I've been seeing this really nice guy lately, but he's started asking me questions about female behavior. At first I was like 'aww he's being so considerate wanting to understand' and yeah the 'helper' in me wanted to help him understand as well.

But then I realized, A- is 'female behavior' really a thing? I've never met two girls who wanted the same thing. B- If I need to explain the basics of human behavior to someone, then I probably shouldn't be dating them. C- They may just using me to learn how to date more women.

For instance, one question was if a woman sitting alone at a bar is, in itself, an invitation to be approached.

I said I guess it depends, because some women want that, some women don't, you'd have to find out about the individual (almost like women are just normal fucking people with their own personalities???) That seemed to deter him from even wanting to try. In my case, if I go somewhere alone it's simply because I wanted to go there. The idea of a woman's mere existence being an invitation to men, is an irritating (if not deadly) male fantasy.

Any time I've been approached by a guy I don't know, he seems to have this delusion that I want to be approached, and he can't understand that he's actually being intrusive and making me extremely uncomfortable. Trying to understand where this assumption comes from just makes me feel angry.

But I've also met girls who insist that they want that kind of attention??? Which I can't relate to at all.....but to each their own I guess???