#beingaro

Navigating aromanticism and not feeling valid enough and therefore labelling yourself with commitment issues🤡🤡🤡

Have this really sweet person that I’ve vibed well with and wants to be in a relationship but I want to introduce them to the idea of qrps and I’m nervous cause I don’t want to seem like some weirdo. Ugh, screw amatonormativity

Proudly settling more into my aro identity and finding what works for me as well as what doesn’t.

Being aromantic has been one hell of a journey, discovering the identity, questioning it, wondering if it was all just all a self-fulfilling prophecy and I was just letting myself believe that that's who I was in order to avoid my own personal issues while internally I found nothing. It was who I was and it felt so perfect. And Lord knows I hated myself so damn much for it. It was like how could I be this thing? This person. Even though it all made so much sense. I grew up friendless, I wasn't exactly a "quiet kid" per se, I mean I spoke up, spoke my mind but essentially I had no crowd, I rarely had company and I never exactly fit in anywhere. This experience allowed me to explore myself even further, before when I joined social media just as it was coming up, guys would flirt with me and I mean I would flirt back all as a game, all for some attention, I mean I was lonely, I was internally desperate to be seen and it was all a game but there was NOTHING. No sense of attachment even, I just liked that someone wanted to actually give me some attention but the whole fixation of locking myself in a relationship has never occurred in any of my relationships, even the ones where we mentally connect and it all feels like the person was God-sent. I could drawl on this forever, lol, but this was really just an appreciation post to the entire aro community out there, for the patience, the education and the love and bringing me into absolutely loving being aro!

The invalidation I’ve received after telling people that I’m aro is just one of the things that make this experience even harder

God, I thought with all this time I’ve been aro it’ll help me figure out where i stand with relationships and connections but I’m still confused af

What are you guys’ thoughts on males with female best friends?

Being comfortable in the fact that you don’t crave romance or feel romantic attraction doesn’t mean you’re bad in any way. You’re not abusing people or hurting them by not feeling romantic attraction to them. Your identity and feelings do not harm anyone else. You have not misled anyone by not telling them your identity, regardless of what they try to make you believe. The only way you could do that is by calling someone your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner or telling them you want to be with them. Being nice to people, saying someone is physically good looking, or expressing any sort of general positivity about a particular person is not deceiving them into believing you’re alloromantic. If someone makes that jump, it’s THEIR fault. If someone says you’ve somehow done them harm by not wanting a romantic bond with them, they are the abusive one.