Being comfortable in the fact that you don’t crave romance or feel romantic attraction doesn’t mean you’re bad in any way. You’re not abusing people or hurting them by not feeling romantic attraction to them. Your identity and feelings do not harm anyone else. You have not misled anyone by not telling them your identity, regardless of what they try to make you believe. The only way you could do that is by calling someone your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner or telling them you want to be with them. Being nice to people, saying someone is physically good looking, or expressing any sort of general positivity about a particular person is not deceiving them into believing you’re alloromantic. If someone makes that jump, it’s THEIR fault. If someone says you’ve somehow done them harm by not wanting a romantic bond with them, they are the abusive one.
