#badconversation

I bet that got your attention!! The oral activity I am referring to is good conversation and in the case of this blog post, men who just don’t have the ability to give good oral🤣.  

The secret to a smart woman’s appetite in the dating world is a man who can turn her on with words, witt, charm, humour and having enlightened thought exchanges.  A nice ass helps too😋 

This powers a part of her brain that makes her believe the man is genuinely interested in her and has the ability to keep up with good oral...good conversation. 

Afterall, good communication is the cornerstone of all successful relationships whether it be in the courtroom, the boardroom or ... the bedroom😉

The initial indicators start with what happens on line. This will then make you decide whether you want to take it off line via text and of course the phone call imperative to make sure this man can indeed fulfill this need for good communication.

Now what happens when you meet in person and this man’s ability to parle effectively with what has been established prior to meeting just FAILS?? 

I wish I could tell you some of my stories are one offs, but alas, I wouldn’t be blogging if this wasn’t a recurring issue among the feeble male population😆 

Now I have been on dates with men where English is not their first language and while I try to be patient, it’s just not easy to get through conversation when you have to stop an explain things.  Having said that, there are a lot of educated men out there with a good command of the English language, but often times my sarcasm and dry humour gets lost in translation lol

This is one of my first dates from about 4 years ago...On line convo is good.  cracked a few jokes and decided to exchange numbers.  We even spent some good time chatting on the phone and there were NO red flags to make me believe  communication would be an issue. Fast forward to our dinner date...

We meet outside of the restaurant and he instantly looks me up and down and says “You’re tall”.   I am NOT tall.  I am 5′5 and I wear heels.  His profile stated 6′ and he was NOT 6′. But this being me in my dating infancy did not make an issue of it. I simply chuckled and said, “oh it’s just the heels”.  What I didn’t realize was that he immediately experienced conversational shrinkage😂

We got into the restaurant and me being the chatty Cathy that I am, wasn’t paying attention to the fact that he really was not contributing.  We sat down and I began by asking him how his day was.  His response “good”.  I followed up with asking him what he did.  His response “stuff”.  I knew immediately that he was nervous as he was rubbing his hands and rocking back and forth.  Another follow up question to make sure he wasn’t experiencing any medical issues and he replied with “Okay”. At this point he ordered his beer, ONE word, and ordered wings ONE word.  Even the server had difficulty getting this guy to give answers beyond one word.  ie. what kind of sauce would you like he actually responded with “whatever”.  I was about to LOSE my mind!!!

I asked him if he is normally like this when our phone conversations were so good and he told me he is shy.  Awwwwwwwww..... if you can’t be out in public with a woman then maybe you shouldn't be dating or go pick up someone from the library dude!!! 

The rest of the night was me trying to move the conversation along. I would ask a question, he would reply with ONE word and then I would basically have a monologue of answering my own questions to fill in the time that seemed to stand still!