Hi! I just found you and I feel like you might be able to help me. I've been trying to understand whether I'm genderfluid or not but haven't made much progress. Is it the definitive changing of feeling one gender or the other, or is it a tipping of the scale between fem and masc? I'm comfortable in my body as my bio sex, but would also be happy to transition. Regardless of what gender I'm feeling on a day I can portray myself as both fem or masc, if that makes sense. Am I valid or just a mess?
Hello!
Personally, I would think that you'd need *some* desire to transition, or a preference for a transitioned body over what you were assigned at birth, but I also get where you're coming from. In terms of the two ways you've defined being genderfluid, it's a bit of both. Sometimes it's very clear to me whether I'm male, female, or neither- and other times I'm just like aaaa wtf. Ya know?
I don't think I'm really the right person, or that there's anyone that is, to determine whether you're "valid" or not. But I will say that if dysphoria isn't much of a problem for you, you could look into things like gender non conforming?
Another thing that might help is asking your friends to use different pronouns for you and see what makes you feel euphoric, as opposed to dysphoric.
