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“Look at me.”

He grunts the words out, his hand reaching down to grab your chin. You’ve just woken up and the both of you are taking advantage of Sylus’ morning excitement.

However, when your eyes rolled back in pleasure, and then shut he gave a tsk, followed by that statement.: Look at me.

It takes you a second to register what he says. He pauses while waiting, before repeating it, emphasizing each world with a savage thrust: "Look at me. "

Seeing as this is one of my most popular posts to this day, I'm making this its own post, separate from the ask, because I want to turn it into its own series. I'm still in an incredibly difficult spot in life, having just moved across states for the second time in two years, and moved overall for the third time in two years. My job is finally getting normal, but I recently had health issues and seem to be getting sick again. Eventually hoping to stabilize enough to come back to this and finish my 10th House Nakshatra Lord series as well. Thanks for your patience and for continuing to check in!

What is the significance of a synastry house overlay?

In a natal chart, you can’t isolate a house’s impact on a planet from the planet’s impact on a house. That doesn’t make sense. For example, a natal 8th house moon leads to an individual whose emotional interior is most evoked and stirred by themes like death and intimacy, and whose relationship to themes like death and intimacy is greatly impacted by their feelings and intuition. It’s mutual.

The same is true of synastry overlays. No matter what, both people will be affected by synastry placements. What varies is to what effect, if they notice, and if they accept it.

In my experience, everything else being equal, here’s how I usually see things playing out with overlay synastry:

The house person provides the space for the planet person to operate within. Think about when someone new joins the office, or you invite a guest over to your house. The change is immediate and impactful. You notice right away and have to adjust accordingly. Of course, that doesn’t mean the effects can’t shift. If someone barges into your home uninvited, you’ll start out pretty defensive, but once they settle in, you may appreciate their presence. The opposite, that maybe you invite them in, eager to host for them, but then their actual presence ends up grating on your nerves, can also be true.

The planet person is the newcomer, entering the new environment. To get a grasp on what that means, think about how it works when you visit somewhere new. The new place could be as spectacular or strange or intense as you ever imagined, but it still requires you actively exploring it and interacting with it, for it to affect you. You might be at Disneyland, but loitering by the entrance will still make for a very different experience then venturing in, getting on rides, and looking for stuff to do. Only once you do can you decide if you like it there or not.

The house person is immediately affected by the planet person as characterized by the specific planet and house in question, but it’s the planet person’s prerogative to inhabit the house person’s world and allow themselves to be affected by it.

What is the significance one's moon overlaying the other's 8th house?

Above is all true regardless of what overlay placement we’re talking about, but here’s what it potentially means for moon in the 8th house specifically:

Both the moon and the 8th house can signify intuition, vulnerability, and private affairs. These are the themes empowered with this overlay.

The 8th house person will immediately feel a magnetic pull from (whether that’s being attracted to or repulsed by) the sentimentality, intuition, and past of the moon person.

Whether it’s attraction or repulsion depends on the house person’s personal relationship with 8th house and Pluto/Mars/Scorpio themes - you can check their natal chart for clarity on that if you aren’t sure.

The moon person may feel too intimidated to immediately make their interior world accessible to the house person, because the 8th house is a dark place and it often takes time for people to feel secure enough to risk engaging with it.

Whether this is the case depends on the moon person’s personal relationship with 8th house and Pluto/Mars/Scorpio themes - with benefic placements and aspects, this likely won’t be an issue.

The 8th house person may not react to withholding of intimacy well.

They may reject the moon person’s emotions entirely, preferring to live under the impression that the moon person has no substantial emotions to share - a fear driven reaction that devalues the other’s depth.

Or they may ignore boundaries, push for access to the moon person’s emotions - an entitled reaction that defies the other’s power. This can lead into obsession from the house person over the moon person.

If the house person has their own healthy grasp on the 8th house, however, they will respect the moon person and wait patiently for them to willingly make themselves vulnerable, if they ever do.

The house person may feel existentially tethered to the moon person. The moon person may come to feel as though the house person is a fortress guarding their inner world.

During times of trauma, grief, or fear, the 8th house person may latch onto the moon person as a source of comfort, and/or the moon person can feel personally invested in the recovery of the 8th house person.

The house person’s fear of betrayal and loss may be eased around them. However, any betrayal or loss suffered at the hands of or even just despite the support of the moon person is that much more painful.

Both the moon person and the house person run a bit higher risk of becoming obsessive or unhealthy about the dynamic and other person.

For the house person, obsession will be early. It’s heady to start and may spiral due to possessiveness. Beware controlling behavior.

For the moon person, obsession is latent. It sneaks in with time, and may spiral due to overprotectiveness. Beware gaslighting.

Why does one of us seem more affected by this synastry overlay than the other?

Every synastry chart contains overlays for every planet or object. The chart’s aspects, in addition to factors in each member’s natal chart as well as real world context, dictate which overlays are significant to both or either member of the relationship.

Here is a list of things which can cause an individual to be more affected by a moon in the 8th house synastry overlay: 

Being Moon-dominant. This could include: having a Cancer Rising, having planets in the 4th house; having major Lunar aspects, especially in personal planets and angles; having Moon-ruled Nakshatras, especially in the Big Three [Vedic only]; and having angles or personal planets in Lunar degrees, especially the Big Three [Western only].

Being Pluto-dominant [Western only]. This could include: having a Scorpio Rising; having personal planets in the 8th house; having major Pluto aspects to personal planets or the angles; and having angles or personal planets in Pluto/Scorpio degrees, especially your Big Three.

Being Mars-dominant [Vedic only]. This could include: having a Scorpio (or Aries) Rising; having planets and nodes in the 8th (or 1st) house; having major Mars aspects; and having Mars-ruled Nakshatras (especially in the Big Three).

Temporary heightening can be felt by those undergoing major Moon Transits. For Vedic, this means Transit Moon aspecting the natal Sun, Moon, Rising, Nodes, or Moon’s Nakshatra ruler, or if it’s entering a house ruled by the sign of the natal Moon. For Western, this means Transit Moon aspecting the natal personal planets, angles, or sign ruler of one of the Big Three, or if it’s entering the house ruled by the sign of the natal Moon.

Temporary heightening can be felt by those undergoing major Pluto Transits [Western only]. This means Transit Pluto aspecting the natal personal planets, angles, or the sign ruler of one of the Big Three, or if it’s entering the house ruled by the sign of natal Pluto.

Temporary heightening can be felt by those undergoing major Mars Transits [Vedic only]. This means Transit Mars aspecting the natal Sun, Moon, Rising, Nodes, or Mar’s Nakshatra ruler, or if it’s entering a house ruled by the sign of the natal Mars. 

Temporary heightening can be felt by those with Moon-dominant Solar Return charts.

Temporary heightening can be felt by those with Pluto-dominant Solar Return charts [Western only].

Temporary heightening can be felt by those with Mars-dominant Solar Return charts [Vedic only].

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His breathing is harsh as he sits there with you. You don't understand how such a giant man can be so gentle with you, but there he is. His fingers trace the outline of your face. He seems to want to memorize every line, every plane.

Your hands reach forward, splaying out across his chest. His breath quickens every so slightly. Sylus leans even closer to you, his hand dipping to trace down your neckline.

"Your fingers are so gentle," you say to him.

In striking color, he remembers the first time he ever held you. Not in this life. No, back when you were his little sorceress and he was a dragon. He remembers wanting to do this -- but secretly terrified he'd mar you -- his treasure, his love -- with his claws.

With a gentle smile, your own hand comes out, tracing his own features. It seems to pull him out of his memories. His lips form a smile that matches your own.

sylus ... likes to slip things off at your doorstep. he's learned that if you are given away to return it easily, you will. so he's decided to just not be in sight for that to happen.

sylus ... will let you put your card down at the restaurant, but he switches it out with his own at the last second with his evol

sylus ... who takes notes of the things you say you want and makes sure they end up easily accessible to you

sylus ... finding subtle ways to get rid of what debt you have without outright giving you his card ( the debt collector is suddenly out of business or has a new owner or is dead... )

sylus ... taking you shopping whenever you mention liking a new style. he also loves buying you pretty things. necklaces, bracelets, rings, gems, etc. if he thinks it'll look pretty on you, it's in his cart. (it happens way too much, and you have a special jewelry box for all the things he's gotten you. it's over flowing.)