#asepc

An ace ring is a black ring, usually worn on the middle finger of the right hand, that indicates you are on the asexual spectrum. An aro ring is the basically the same thing just white and worn on your left hand on the middle finger. Placement is important since other communities us rings to identify themselves. Many people on the spectrum don’t know about the rings, so it is often times a more personal symbol. Even if you never meet another ace or someone who knows about the rings, I still think it’s a nice step of personal acceptance and way to display yourself! It’s just a really neat way to embrace your ace-ness and/or aro-ness!

Some people go with plain black and plain white., but others like their rings with a little bit more to them. Some people might go out even further and get rings that are dragon-like. The meaning of this is explained in this post of mine. There are even rings out there with the ace of spades (and other suits) which the meaning of that is explained in one of my previous posts. There are also cool rings out there that are less subtle that have the aro flag colors, ace flag, colors, and the sunset aroace flag. Overall, just the normal ace ring, a black ring with embellishments, and any other ace symbols are used by people! People have all sorts of different rings that fit within the aro/ace ring vibe.

Like, I definitely don’t want a sexual partner. I’m not even sure if romantic love is something I feel-

But I want a life partner, multiple, preferably. Like a closed polycule would be the dream??? I already have one partner, who runs more AlloAro than me with a similar view point. And it’s just weirdddddd.

Let's face it: matter of sexuality isn't anywhere near as simple as cishet marketing makes it to be. It's actually hella complicated, especially if you're LGBT+. I'm a sex positive and sex repulsed aroace who might possibly be demi and has micro labels that fit me. No, I don't want relationships, I don't want to be sexual with people. However I engage with media with heavy sexual and/or romantic undertones. I read and write smut on regular basis. 99% of sexual things I've read or written I don't want to experience. I've tried, liked only physical aspect while disliked everything else. Irl I shy away from all romantic/sexual regarding myself, I'm fine with talking about those topics in general. But I get repulsed when they're about myself.

It took me years to understand my complicated relationship with sexual/romantic attraction. Then how can I expect someone with tunnel vision that never had complex feelings and doubts towards their sexuality to understand it? I can't.