#appologizing

a·pol·o·gy

   [uh-pol-uh-jee]

 noun, plural -gies.

1. a written or spoken expression of one's regret, remorse, or sorrow for having insulted, failed, injured, or wrong another

STOP OVER APOLOGIZING.

What is it with people going to others for help or guidance and then later coming out feeling the compulsion to say sorry? Why is it that, when you've tried to better yourself or seek improvement, you should provide an apology -- an expression of regret? How come there seems to be some hypocrisy in those who preach "Live without regrets" yet express it after the consequences?

This whole world seems to have it all wrong - it's as though people are so sensitive about their privacy, and live by such insecure boundaries. Being overcautious is not  progressive. If you want to know something, then do what you can to find out. There needs to be transparency, there needs to be truth, and there needs to be cooperation. When you ask someone a question because you're seeking an answer that will make you better off in life, don't regret it. Stop seeing your failures as an end, but rather as a means. Don't propose yourself a lesson and back down on it, because if you regret asking, then how will you ever muster the courage to keep on asking and learning? It's like taking one step forward and two steps back.

"Decide to decide--and when you act, do so with the full force of your being. Second-guessing yourself is a form of self-abuse." When you trust a person, trust them. When you love a person, love them. When you want to ask a question, ask them. When you make a decision, stand firm with that decision and move forward to making newer and better decisions. That is what it means to have commitment. It's also damaging when you say one thing then do another. That's the hypocrisy.

If you ask for help and want someone to help you, then accept their help and be grateful for what they've done - not regretful. If you put forward efforts into bettering yourself, and receive the efforts of the other person, don't regret that--appreciate it! It's "thank you for your time (and effort)", NOT "sorry for wasting your time (and effort)".

There's a critical change in our lives and attitudes when we approach a situation with grace instead of regret. You have to learn and understand that humanity does care about and love you. If you invest a lot of effort and trust in a friendship or a relationship, then it would be reasonable for the other person to reciprocate. If you go on in life genuinely thinking that you're wasting people's time and effort, then you will actually be doing so.