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aroace culture is watching allo people ship one of the ONLY ace/aro character in media with the excuse that "aro/ace people can still date/have sex!" and wanting to scream.
like wtf??? stop mansplaining my own identity to me so you can make that character fit your allo needs!! you have so many characters dude, let me have this one.
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Im not innocent of it as ive done it in the past but can we not like... Call pan people pannies or cis people cissies. Like yeah, its all fine and good to scold people who have harmful beliefs or are exercising their privilage but like.... Your term for them shouldnt be the equivilant of putting the word pan and cis infront of the common transphobic, especially transmysognisitc terms " trannie" and " sissy".
This is legit no different from yall trying to censor the slur retard by saying fucktard instead. Ur still sayin a slur ur just trying to make it something you can say by changing it abit and aiming at different people.
How about just as a ground rule we stop editing slurs to aim that different people? thanks!
Also this absolutely includes yall trying to change man-splaining into allosplaining and whitewashing into allowashing/gaywashing. Yall aint slick.
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Aroace culture is getting allo-splained QPR's. Like, very incorrectly.
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I want a new term called "allosplaining" where allosexuals seem to think they know more about your asexual experiences than you and can determine that they are less horrifying than LGBT experiences.
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Thanks for being open to asks. Recently it's become quite clear that I'm ace. I'm pretty sure I'm not aro. I've had maybe two or three "crushes" in my 25 years, more like a want to be near and spend a lot of time with someone. Still it's something that happens rarely and passes quickly. What's hardest for me is trying to figure out how to explain it to allos. I feel usually get the "you just haven't found the Right One" speech which is frustrating. Any suggestions?
oh man, I so feel you friend.  Whenever I’ve tried to explain being demisexual to my friends or family, they’ve reacted with ‘I think that’s normal!’ and it’s like ‘well, judging from how the rest of the world/you behave, I don’t think it’s just ‘normal’, can you not?’
(to be fair, I’m pretty sure my mom is also demisexual/gray-ace, based on conversations I’ve had with her over the years, but she doesn’t have the vocabulary to describe this? so I guess to her, me describing her own experience would, in fact, seem ‘normal’.)
Unfortunately, I’m not sure how to get around the many allosexual-splanations of why you can’t possibly be not attracted to anybody. I’ve always just let the subject drop - but I’m also a bit of a social wimp.
For explaining what asexuality is, here’s a couple of ideas:
start with a statistic.  ’1% of people don’t experience sexual attraction, and I’m in that 1%.’  People have a harder time arguing with numbers - it’s scientific, after all.
don’t try to explain it from your perspective: try to explain it from theirs.  For instance, if they’re straight, tell them it’s just like how they feel when they see someone of the same sex that could be considered sexually attractive: you can appreciate how they look, but it’s not a turn-on.
point out you’re not broken and you’re not looking for them to fix you.  When people try to explain to you why you’re wrong about who you are, tell them straight out: you’re not looking for them to ‘fix your problem’ or reassure you that someday, you will find true allosexual love!  You’re just telling them how you feel about things, and you want them to respect it as they would other sexual orientations.
Most people who are arguing with you about your orientation are probably doing it out of concern, because many people belabor mistakenly under the idea that ace people are ‘missing out’ on all the fun of sexual attraction.  They want to reassure you that you’re normal, and that’s a very kind thing to do, but they’re going about it in horribly wrong ways.
The people who aren’t doing it out of concern for you are probably arguing with you because they feel threatened - the idea that some people aren’t experiencing sexual attraction seems to be pretty scary for some people. They’re probably going to give you every cliche ‘allo-splanation’ for why you’re Totally Not Asexual and how Asexuality Isn’t Even a Thing - and there’s really nothing to do but say, ‘no, you’re wrong,’ and repeat yourself until you’re tired of it.  You don’t have to argue with these people - there are tons of resources online for this these days.  I’d end a conversation like this with ‘look it up!’ if they persist too long, and save yourself the headache!
I hope this helps you a bit!  I haven’t tried these techniques myself for the most part, so I don’t know if they’ll be super helpful, but this is what I’ve observed is most helpful from reading online and what people have said to me - and are things I wish I’ve said myself, haha.  ;A;
The Allosplaining Has Begun
Yup. That’s right. I’m calling it allosplaining. Google returned no hits for it, so it might be a new word (squee!). Allosplaining is when someone who is allosexual disagrees with the perspective of someone who is on the ace spectrum and feels the need to explain the allosexual perspective to that person. Because the ENTIRE WORLD does not already reflect the allosexual perspective. I would have to abstain from contact with something like 99% of the population to avoid hearing the allosexual perspective. Not to mention it’s part of nearly every book, movie and television show ever created. So yes, allosexuals, I am completely aware of you and your feelings. There is no way I could not be. But it would be very easy for you to not be aware of me and mine. So please, if you’re reading this, try to remember that my goal in sharing my perspective is not to attack or demean you. I do not believe you are all terrible people. I’m not trying to suppress you. I’m just trying to be heard.Â
