#adopteerights

1. If you're offended by the adopted child crying over their birth mom or birth family.

2. If you're offended at the adopted child calling their birth parents mom and dad.

3. If you don't want the child to cry over their birth family.

4. If you believe adopting an infant means they will not cry or want to look for their birth family.

5. If you don't want the child to have feelings towards you or their birth family.

6. If you adopt then use the child for pro life stuff or tell everyone their adopton story.

7. If you think you're the only parents.

8. If you get upset at the child contacting or seeing their birth family.

9. If you think you've saved a child and the child should be grateful for you.

10. If you can't accept that sometimes adoption is hard and complex and the child will deal with it in their own way. Sometimes that could mean keeping secrets from you, cutting, being sad, running away, or not telling you anything.

11. If you lie to the child.

12. If you can't accept the child will always have another family out there.

13. If you say bad things about the birth parents or birth family.

Wow. People also say similar things to me. Adoption language should not benefit adoptive parents feelings. It should be about the adoptee. If an adoptee wants to say their real mom is their birth mom why get angry at them? I use to say real mom when I was little because I didn't know any better. People would ask about my real mom, my birth mom. My mom would always say birth mom. I'm sad at this post. Being adopted is hard and no matter what adoptees do we're always wrong.

I can say my real mom is my birth mom and everyone will bash me.

I can say my real mom is my adoptive mom and everyone would bash me. We can't win. We should let the child decide what words they want to use. It's the adoptees life.

here are some potential strategies the Green Party could consider for improving the adoption and foster care system:

Increase funding for education and support services:

Advocate for increased funding to schools in counties with high numbers of foster and adopted children, similar to the Support Education license plate program mentioned in result

.

Push for more resources to be allocated to education enrichment programs, school supplies, and extra help for at-risk students, which could benefit foster and adopted children.

Improve support for Education Support Professionals (ESPs):

Advocate for better pay and working conditions for ESPs, as mentioned in result

, who often play crucial roles in supporting foster and adopted children in schools.

Support professional development opportunities for ESPs to better equip them to assist children in the foster/adoption system.

Enhance post-adoption services:

Advocate for increased funding and resources for post-adoption support services, including counseling and educational support.

Push for policies that ensure adopted children have access to their educational and medical histories.

Reform the foster care system:

Advocate for policies that prioritize family reunification when possible and safe.

Support initiatives to recruit and retain high-quality foster parents.

Push for better oversight and accountability in foster care agencies.

Address educational challenges:

Support policies that ensure continuity of education for children in foster care who may move frequently.

Advocate for specialized training for teachers and school staff on the unique needs of foster and adopted children.

Promote mental health support:

Advocate for increased mental health resources in schools, specifically tailored to the needs of foster and adopted children.

Support research into the long-term mental health impacts of foster care and adoption.

Improve transition services:

Advocate for better support services for youth aging out of the foster care system, including education and job training programs.

Address racial disparities:

Push for policies that address racial disparities in the foster care and adoption systems.

Support culturally sensitive training for foster parents and adoption agencies.

Promote open adoption practices:

Advocate for policies that encourage open adoption arrangements when in the best interest of the child.

Support LGBTQ+ rights in adoption:

Advocate against discrimination in adoption based on sexual orientation or gender identity.

Support policies that ensure LGBTQ+ individuals and couples have equal rights in adoption processes.

ADOPTION AWARENESS MONTH QUOTE 10

Wednesday, November 22, 2023

"We don’t have adoption issues, we have an issue with adoption." – Janine Myung-Ja, Adoptionland: From Orphans to Activists

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ You "prolifers" need to get to work adopting the kids who are already here! AND/OR donating towards a Foster Love service project or program! Interested in grabbing the book the quote came from? If so, click here! The image was …

For those who have searched for (natural) family, talk about the impetus that lead you to search, the emotions leading up to making contact, and the reactions of those family members you found.

My situation is a little different in that my adoption was “semi-closed”. It started off as closed, but my mother found out who had adopted me when I was only a few months old (I think), and her contact led to the opening of the adoption to letterbox contact via the agency. Then, when I was a bit older, it became fully open. I’ve blocked out most of the meetings with my mother and other family (in fact I didn’t even realise I’d met other members of my family, like my grandmother), but they did happen.

My father’s side, on the hand, was closed. I went to see my mother for my 13th birthday, and I also briefly met my then youngest younger brother. For whatever reason, I had a burning need to search for my Dad. She gave me his full name and a warning.

With his name, I scoured the passenger manifests after 9/11, hoping his name wouldn’t be on them. It wasn’t. I had no luck finding him, but, going through some papers, I found a letter from my grandmother that had her name and phone number on it. With no other leads, I called her and hoped it would be the same so many years later.

It was. We talked for a while, and she told me how to contact my grandfather. I was so nervous, both that time and the time I called my granddad’s number. I asked to speak to *Dad’s Name*. They said he was at sea and would be home in a couple of weeks, I think it was. I said thank you and hung up. I never explained who I was. I wonder what they thought? Or if they even remember.

Despite hating the phone and being so nervous I was shaking, I did call back. I was in my room, and I had Journey’s “Open Arms” playing on low. He was there that time, and we talked. It was amazing, but not as amazing as when we finally met in person for the first time when I was 14. I just stared at him - and tried not to! He looked like me. Sounded like me. Acts like me. It was bizarre and amazing.

We tried to then keep in touch via e-mail, but that was difficult. A few years later, I went out to visit him, and while I was there, we went to the annual family get together. That was incredible and also very overwhelming. Everyone was extremely welcoming, and I love them all. It also made/makes me very sad to know that I was cut off from them for so long, and that whatever relationship I have with them now, I will always be an outsider. Or at least I will always feel an outsider.