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I'm confsused. I do feel sexual attraction sometimes (it's very low tho) but I don't feel the need to act upon it. And most time it kinda fades as soon as there's a sexual action? Does this sound weird?
Hi anon!No, that does not sound weird to me! It seems quite like you may be graysexual or otherwise on the ace spectrum! The definition of graysexual is experiencing sexual attraction only some times, and/or only weakly. It can be used as an umbrella term for people who are on the asexual spectrum that still experience sexual attraction at times. I also think looking into whether you may be lith-/akoisexual could be helpful, which is when you experience sexual attraction but it fades if reciprocated or you don’t want it reciprocated.Good luck in defining your identity if you wish to do that! You are very welcome in the graysexual and ace-spec community!- mod Riah
(1) Hi, ive been struggling to pinpoint my sexuality for a few years now, and it's really making me sad and frustrated that i still dont know for sure, and i thought maybe you could help me? I'm romantically attracted to women and like, one man i know. Literally one man during my entire life. I can have sex with women, it does not turn me on, but I'm happy to make them feel good. I've never been sexually attracted to anybody, especially men, until recently. I found myself crushing hard and after
(2) a few months of this attraction, i looked at him and went like ‘wow, i could have sex with him if he wanted’. And after that, a few weeks later i felt that shit, i don’t only ‘could if he would’ anymore, rn id literally love to do it with him and i find this idea very appealing to me in a sexual way, which is something completely new for me. Do you have any ideas what it can mean? Thanks for answering in advance 💕
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Hi anon! I’m sorry this questioning has made you sad and frustrated, but hopefully I can help you feel less alone! It sounds like you’ve already been able to pinpoint your feelings quite well and mostly need the words to use, which I am happy to try to help you find!
Here are some words I think may fit you:- Biromantic with a preferance for women: experiencing romantic attraction toward two or more genders/same and other genders, but mostly toward women.- Demisexual: not experiencing sexual attraction until an emotional bond has formed.- Greysexual: rarely or only weakly experiencing sexual attraction.
So there are several words you could use that could fit, and several communities where you could find people who feel similarly! For example, I am a biromantic demi/graysexual person and I totally understand the feeling of suddenly experiencing sexual attraction after not having experienced it at all for quite a while!
I hope this helps! - Mod Riah
Hi, I’m questioning whether or not I’m greysexual. I’ve thought I was for some time and even wear a grey ring, but the more I read the more I think perhaps I’m really not grey. I’m attracted to a handful of people. Most people that society considers sexually attractive are not so much to me. The attraction I feel to that small amount of people, however, is fairly strong most of the time, though there are days I don’t really feel all that sexual. I’m confused! Any ideas or advice? Thanks!
Hi anon!I can’t tell you what you are, but from what you describe I’d say you could definately be graysexual, but you could also be aceflux which is when you fluctuate between sexual and asexual. Its also perfectly fine to be unsure, and since it seems you are on the asexual spectrum you could also just use ace-spec if that’s more comfortable for u!You are absolutely welcome in the graysexual and ace-spec community, though, and experiencing sexual attraction at times to some people doesn’t stop that!Stay grayceful!- Mod Riah
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Am I still valid if I feel comfortable identifying as both quoiromantic and straight gray ace while online but also identifying as straight to make things easier? I'm queer questioning right now but I feel like maybe I'm just trying to force myself into spaces I'm not welcome? Thanks for you time.
Hi anon!
Yes, thats totally valid! You don't have to come out to people if you don't want to, its your choice and you are still just as ace-spec even if you don't tell everyone!
Hope this helps!
- mod Riah
I have a question. I’ve considered myself graysexual for a while now but I have been told that sexual attraction feels like the feeling you get when your embarrassed and I’ve felt that every few months or so. I can look at a picture of someone that many people would consider sexually attractive and not feel anything, and then look again and feel attraction. Idk if what I’m feeling is sexual attraction or not because as far as I know I haven’t that about having sex with that person or anything.
Hi anon!
Feeling embarrassed or tingly from looking at someone can be other types of attraction as well, such as romantic, so it doesn't necessarily mean you experience sexual attraction. I'd recommend feeling for what types of things you'd actually want with the person you're looking at/near by when you get this feeling and considering if its sexual, romantic, platonic or something else. If it is sexual atttraction though then you sound quite like aceflux could fit. Aceflux is when it varies whether you experience sexual attraction or not, though mostly not or to a lesser degree than most.
Hope this helps!
- mod Riah
Hi there, so here is my little situation, I have been identifying as graysexual for a while and have come out to my friends but not completely to my parents and sister. What I mean by not completely us that I have mentioned my sexuality to them but they seem to forget that this is what I identify with overtime even though this is what I am. Another thing is that they always insist that there is only a or b when it come to identifying yourself with either your sexuality or your gender Any advice?
Hi, anon!
Sorry this has taken so long time to answer. I, personally, have been unsure what to answer since this is a quite difficult situation, and I've been in somewhat similar ones and not known what to do. I still think I have some tips that could be helpful, and maybe some followers have some more tips?
So, first I'd recommend being unapologetically and openly graysexual and try to correct them when they say anything against it, or against anything other than this a or b being posible. I know its hard, but its possible to be quite casual about it. For example, if they say something like "they could be gay or straight" just add out loud "or asexual or bisexual or pansexual or graysexual or something else" or some variation of that. Bringing up famous people who come out as other stuff than gay, lesbian or binary trans could also help them get used to the idea.
When it comes to them seeming to forget that you're graysexual, you could try to come out to them again with a proper explanation and maybe some resources/links/articles to help them understand and remember. And/or you could try to just casually mention it more and hope they get used to it after a while.
I hope this helps, and that your family understands that there are a variety of orientations and genders, and that you're graysexual.
Stay grayceful!
- Mod Riah
