(1) Hi, ive been struggling to pinpoint my sexuality for a few years now, and it's really making me sad and frustrated that i still dont know for sure, and i thought maybe you could help me? I'm romantically attracted to women and like, one man i know. Literally one man during my entire life. I can have sex with women, it does not turn me on, but I'm happy to make them feel good. I've never been sexually attracted to anybody, especially men, until recently. I found myself crushing hard and after
(2) a few months of this attraction, i looked at him and went like ‘wow, i could have sex with him if he wanted’. And after that, a few weeks later i felt that shit, i don’t only ‘could if he would’ anymore, rn id literally love to do it with him and i find this idea very appealing to me in a sexual way, which is something completely new for me. Do you have any ideas what it can mean? Thanks for answering in advance 💕
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Hi anon! I’m sorry this questioning has made you sad and frustrated, but hopefully I can help you feel less alone! It sounds like you’ve already been able to pinpoint your feelings quite well and mostly need the words to use, which I am happy to try to help you find!
Here are some words I think may fit you:- Biromantic with a preferance for women: experiencing romantic attraction toward two or more genders/same and other genders, but mostly toward women.- Demisexual: not experiencing sexual attraction until an emotional bond has formed.- Greysexual: rarely or only weakly experiencing sexual attraction.
So there are several words you could use that could fit, and several communities where you could find people who feel similarly! For example, I am a biromantic demi/graysexual person and I totally understand the feeling of suddenly experiencing sexual attraction after not having experienced it at all for quite a while!
I hope this helps! - Mod Riah
