#accepting failure

Growing up is realizing some bridges burn, and they won't be rebuilt. You have to stare at your reflection in the mirror and know that your biggest mistake was holding on when you shouldn't have.

Growing up is learning to accept that you failed.

Fantasy and Fiction are great motivators to move forward when one wants to escape. They show compelling characters forging ahead and creating a better world for it. And...they cut out all the mundane middle steps.

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- When I first started my studyblr I thought I was invincible.  I thought that I would be the queen of aesthetically pleasing notes and masterposts.  But, failure is inevitable.  Even the people that appear to have every aspect of their life together will occasionally fail.  But how will we ever learn to grow without having learnt what starting from the bottom feels like? -

DISTRACTIONS

Listen to music- Your favorite songs that you know all the words to or even some new music to keep your mind engaged

Read a book- Books serve as great tools to bring your mind into another world

Hang out with a friend- If you live a very social life, call a friend and go out for lunch or just to hangout to get your mind off things for a little bit before you’re ready to make peace with failure

Watch your favorite TV show- I definitely recommend watching friends as a light hearted option

ACCEPTING FAILURE

Allow yourself to grieve- failure is hard no matter how many times you encounter it.  Let yourself feel what you need to feel in order to make peace with it.

Give yourself time- You don’t have to go right back into life with a big smile.  Take a day or however much time you need in order to feel like yourself again. 

Talk about it- Sometimes talking about it is the best remedy.  Friends or family that are willing to listen and understand can be great people to talk to.  Sometimes in the midst of talking about your failure you can find solutions.

MAKE PEACE WITH FAILURE

Understand what caused the failure- was it a lack of studying? Was it a really stressful week where everything seemed impossible? Were there personal issues that were more important at the time?

Separate yourself from it-  YOU are not a failure.  Just because it didn’t work this time doesn’t mean it will not work next time.  Things take time, don’t blame yourself.

Make goals for the future- Tell yourself how you’re going to fix this issue and stick to your goals even when life gets tough.

My Other “How-To” Posts

Powerful: The Secret on Attaining True Self Confidence

By Sarah Pachter

Most of us think of failure as a plague to avoid at all costs, or something inevitable that we must endure.

But failure is actually a key component to building self-confidence, perhaps even more than success. Counter-intuitive? Allow me to explain.

I once taught a class and totally bombed. I didn’t like how I delivered my lecture. I was unhappy with the reaction I got. And as I…