Every Mom Is A Super Hero

I do not know the story of this particular embryo. In many cases, researchers have been able to use small cameras to get great images of living preborn humans in the womb. 

As for prenatal camera menCool story bro, did you know that fucking around with an occupied uterus is risky when you want to carry to term? there is a reason we dont all go home from prenatal visits with a clear snapshot of our kids. Any lil bother with the cervix or amniotic sack could cause miscarriage. So even if those “live photos” you are talking about are real (because i tried to look up if it was possible, couldnt find it in the heap of antichoice propaganda, weird its almost like antichoice people keep information from people)they would still be putting the pregnancy at risk for your needs. By your logic, you are exploiting a child.

Anyway, my point was, this is what real abortion or miscarriage typically look like, and i find it funny you don’t recognize a real abortion when you see one because this embryo is super duper dead (spoiler, humans are not grey or white, we are *edit* we have red and pink undertones cuz like, blood, so are our feti and embryo) not only that, the eyes are clouded and there is no umbilical or amniotic sack…sooo….yeah super duper dead. There is a small possibility it was a miscarrige but 99% of these images are taken in medical labs where they get their specimens from

Since everyone’s so anxious.

Right after Diddy was born, I was in the car listening to NPR and I heard a child safety educator say, “Stop telling your kids not to talk to strangers. They might need to talk to a stranger one day. Instead, teach them which sorts of strangers are safe. You know who’s safe? A mom with kids. Period. Your kid gets separated from you at the mall? Tell her to flag down the first mom with kids she sees.”

This was fantastic advice. I have shared it with everyone who will listen, ever since.

Last month, I finally got to meet the woman who’d said this brilliant thing, when I had the enormous good fortune of attending a kid’s safety seminar led by Pattie Fitzgerald of Safely Ever After. Safely Ever After offers seminars to adults and children on the subject of “keeping kids safe from child molesters and abuse.”

I didn’t seek Pattie out. I don’t spend every moment of the day worrying that my kids are going to end up in white slavery. But Diddy and Gaga’s preschool offers the material to parents of pre-K students as a preamble to teaching it to the pre-K kids, and Diddy’s a pre-K kid, so I went to hear what Pattie had to say. (And in light of all the Miramonte Elementary madness, I am thrilled I did.)

If it makes you uncomfortable to think about offering this sort of material to a 5 year-old, let me reassure you by saying our school offers an opt-out. But after spending a morning listening to Pattie’s presentation, I can honestly say I would have let her go teach my 3 year-old about “tricky people.” If the boys could understand it, I’d have her come over and talk to them, too.

And they’d like it. Really. I did.  Sitting around listening to all the horrible things that could happen to your kids might not sound like a good time — but oddly enough, with Pattie Fitzgerald, it is.

For one thing, Pattie knows her stuff, and I felt confident that her information was accurate and her advice studied and strong. For another, she’s pretty funny — so the material she presented never felt horribly gloom-and-doomy so much as matter-of-fact and manageable.

FOR INSTANCE:

It is unlikely your kid is going to be abused by a weirdo at the park (huge sigh of relief).

That said, if there is a weirdo at the park, he’s not going to fit the “stranger” model — so stop teaching your kid about strangers! He’s going to come up to your kid and introduce himself. Voila! He ain’t a stranger anymore.

Teach your kids about TRICKY PEOPLE, instead. TRICKY PEOPLE are grown-ups who ASK KIDS FOR HELP (no adult needs to ask a kid for help) or TELLS KIDS TO KEEP A SECRET FROM THEIR PARENTS (including, IT’S OKAY TO COME OVER HERE BEHIND THIS TREE WITHOUT ASKING MOM FIRST. Not asking Mom is tantamount to KEEPING A SECRET.)

Teach your kids not to DO ANYTHING, or GO ANYWHERE, with ANY ADULTS AT ALL, unless they can ask for your permission first.

See how I said ANY ADULTS AT ALL? That’s because:

It’s far more likely your kid is going to be abused by someone they have a relationship with, because most cases of abuse follow long periods of grooming — both of the kid and his or her family.

Bad guys groom you and your kids to gauge whether or not you’re paying attention to what they’re doing, and/or to lure you into dropping your guard. Don’t. Kids who bad guys think are flying under their parents’ radars, or kids who seem a little insecure or disconnected from their parents, are the kids who are most at risk.

SO:

Be suspicious of gifts that adults in positions of authority give your kids. There’s no reason your son should be coming back from Bar Mitzvah study with a cool new keychain or baseball hat.

Be suspicious of teachers who tell you your kid is so special they want to offer him more one-on-one time, or special outings. That teacher who says your kid is into Monet, he wants to take him to a museum next weekend? Say thanks, and take your kid to go see the exhibit yourself.

You know that weird adult cousin of yours who’s always out in the yard with the kids, never in the kitchen drinking with the grown-ups? Keep an eye on your kids when he’s around.

Oh, and that soccer coach who keeps offering to babysit for free, so you can get some time to yourself? NO ONE WANTS TO BABYSIT YOUR KIDS JUST TO BE NICE.

And, here’s another good reason to add to the PANTHEON of reasons to teach your children the anatomically correct names for their genitalia:

There isn’t a child molester on earth who’s going to talk to your daughter about her vagina. Really. But if she suddenly starts calling it a cupcake, you can ask her who taught her that.

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Ultimately, after spending an hour with Pattie, I felt LESS worried, not more. That, to me, is the number one sign of a good book or seminar about parenting — it doesn’t stress you out.

And you know why Pattie Fitzgerald and  Safely Ever After won’t stress you out?

BECAUSE SHE’S CHOCKFUL OF CHECKLISTS!

She’s got a PREVENTION TIPS list, a RED FLAGS & WARNINGS list, and my personal favorite, a THE SUPER-10, PLAY IT SAFE FOR KIDS AND GROWN-UPS! list.

Check out Pattie’s site. Read her material, buy her kids book, organize a bunch of like-minded parents to take her seminars. I promise you’ll feel better after — and way safer — when you do.

Lea Grover, "This Is What Sex-Positive Parenting Really Looks Like," HuffPosts: Parents (29 July 2014)

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Yes J was saying to me that her mum told her that people don’t have boyfriends until they get married. Right? That doesn’t even make sense. I mean, I get not wanting you’re children to date young but c’mon! Don’t lie to them. I then had to validate my whole life to her based off of one lie her mum told her. Also I didn’t want to tell her the truth either because I didn’t think it was my place. But basically parents should be honest about these things.

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Hey guys, Denny’s Tumbler Dad here,

I just wanted to vent tonight. I’ve been feeling pretty cheesed off lately. I look at this beautiful Internet where information and ideas flow freely and liquidly and i just Shake My Head because I also see so many people using hate language, making sick burns, totally owning each other, and it just really bums me out. Look at this wonderful wild, wild west (like Will Smith once had) and some of use it to be no good Punks and Rabble Rousers?! Come on guys and gals. Let’s be better to each other. Kindess is the most coveted commodity! Let’s use this beautiful system of tubes and e-links to share beautiful pictures of elegant mammals, teach each other about science and math and all the wonders of space, and trade funny GIF Images and JPEGS that make us laugh and enjoy this gorgeous life! Because starting Beefs with others on the Internet is exactly what a Quitter would do. And we’re better than that. 

Thanks for listening guys. Thanks for Being There.

Sincerely,