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graves grow no green that you can use.

you’re stress-scrolling social media hoping to find a distraction

you’re struggling just to get to the end of the day

you’ve dropped your daily routine, you’re only doing the bare minimum

you’re forgetting to eat, or feel too tense and nauseous to eat

you’re feeling too weak or too stressed to get/make food

all you can manage is to watch a show or play a video game

all you can manage is to indulge in your favourite media and if it’s not available you feel like you’ll break down immediately

your thoughts are racing in distress and you can’t think clearly

you feel pressure like you should be doing something but you can’t remember what

you feel like you’re in the wrong place, or a wrong time

you can’t tell if something bad is going on right now or if you’re re-living past

your own head feels like a hostile place and you want to get out

any chore you have to do feels impossible and unachievable

interaction with others feels dangerous

your emotions shift from fear, pain, anger, frustration, anxiety, sorrow

you feel like you need to stay distracted no matter what, you shuffle multiple media trying to stop yourself from having thoughts

you’re starting to feel physical pain in your head, joints, limbs, stomach

you can no longer digest food and your stomach is tense and hard

your appetite is a mess and you can’t tell if you need to eat or not

you’re too tired to get up, or to stay up for longer than 30 seconds

any detail is sending you into the dark thoughts, you’re drawn to spiraling

you’re spiraling and everything feels like it will never be okay

you’re overwhelmed with shame you’re not doing something you feel you’re supposed to be getting done

you’re scared you won’t be able to complete a chore or a task even if it’s days/weeks from now

it’s hard to take a deep breath or to calm your breathing

you feel like you won’t be able to take this for a long time

your thoughts start leaning closer to suicidal

Resources

Giving you food and clothing is the bare minimum

You don’t owe gratitude for food and clothes you needed as a child

You had the right for basic resources

Parents shaming you for costing money is ironic and stupid

What it means when they say ‘This is MY house’

My house = my rules is blackmail

Children don’t owe absolute obedience for being fed and sheltered

Physical abuse

You are allowed to refuse any touch, not only violence

If they ‘don’t know they’re hurting you’, why do they ignore or punish you when you protest?

Hitting children is irrational and doesn’t work

You cannot ‘provoke’ your parents to abuse you if they’re not abusive

Why do parents hit, manipulate and traumatize children

Blatant Lies

Care, nurture and affection do not make you weak

They’re lying when they say it ‘wasn’t that bad’‘

You wouldn’t have grown up spoiled if not for abuse

You got too affected by it’ is a lie

Your parents are not ‘just too emotionally immature’ to understand abuse

‘You’re not living in the real world!’ is nonsense

You’re not worthless, a burden, ungrateful, or stupid, and your parents know that.

Constant undermining of your accomplishments is abuse

Not being allowed to talk about the past is symptom of abuse

Parents who want you to be happy vs look happy

You are not abusive for resisting abuse

When they claim ‘they didn’t mean it’, it’s still abuse

Your parents are responsible for their own actions regardless of how badly they try to shift blame on you

Psychological abuse

Blind Obedience is not required in a healthy upbringing

Disgust is a weapon abusive parents use on their kids

If they say they love you, but walk all over your feelings, they don’t 

Parents don’t have the right to enter your room to scream at you

Parents insisting for you to be ‘tough’ are doing it to hide the trauma

Even if a kid acts like ‘they can take it’, it’s still abuse

Pretending abuse is discipline will leave children permanently scarred

It’s inhumane to control and shame children’s reactions to abuse

Why don’t you already know this? vs Teaching you necessary skills

Acting like they’ll change is escape sabotage

Parents are responsible for protecting children from harm

References to how healthy parenting looks like

Not being allowed to be angry with your parents is psychological abuse

If parents want you to act the way you did when you were little, they’re dangerous

Threats about how hard your life will be later on, are bad for you

Lack of continuity and ever-changing rules will cause anxiety

Forced obedience will lead you to abusive relationships

Parents acting like you’re a ‘bad child’ is a shame tactic to control you

There’s healthy and abusive ways to give children chores

Revisioning the past and insisting you remember it wrong is gaslighting

If your parents make you suicidal, they’re abusive

Parents threatening ‘they could be worse’ is abuse

Always assuming the worst intentions for your actions is wrong

Keeping children hostage in abuse is torture

but when I grew up, it meant I'd be ignored for a week,

necessities would be taken away,

people would threaten to leave or actually leave or have screaming matches to see who could hurt the most.