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Felt called to make another post, to remind you some things in case you spend these last days of the year within toxic environments. Whatever situation you’re in, here you have some extra motivation :) Here are some other helpful posts: Feeling emotionally dry // Dear survivor // SAD DURING HOLIDAYS // Owner of your happiness // Dealing with suicidal thoughts // By yourself // How to prevent a breakdown // PTSD reminders // Positive affirmations (PTSD, anxiety, ocd...) // YOU MATTER // Stay alive // Your beauty! // KEEP GOING! // You got this // This moment will pass. // Tips and affirmations for sad nights.

1-      Remember that social gatherings are a human construct of many others, in a way. There’s no vital need for you to feel in a certain way or behave differently than other days. People expect others to express in a specific way in order to feel good and accepted, because external validation is comforting. But you have no obligation to put on a mask! I hope you find moments to be yourself these last days of the year!

2-      If the people around you makes you feel uncomfortable, insecure or unsafe, consciously remember it’s not gonna last forever and you can speak up or take yourself out of the situation at any moment. If somebody triggers your anxiety, just mentally remind yourself how sad it is of them to still be trapped on those negative and honestly, pathetic mindsets! And how brave it’s of you, to show up as yourself!

3-      It’s ok to be alone during the holidays. Honestly, if the people around you do nothing but mess with your mental health… WHO HAVE THE TIME BESTIE because I don’t! If a safe place requires you to be alone, I promise you it’s way better that way; no need to place yourself in unnecessary situations if you can help it.

4-      Remember to find moments of clarity and serenity. Look up to the sky! I know it sounds corny but celebrations have more to do with you celebrating life, and the world celebrating you. You’re alive! You’re like, a manifestation of the freaking Earth with legs! Celebrate yourself, the night sky, the stars, the fresh air, the music you’re listening to… You’re amazing, so celebrate your existence! Because the actual world celebrates you every day and I promise, it loves you as you are!

5-      YOU LOOK AWESME IN YOUR OUTFIT. PERIOD. DID YOU STAY IN YOUR PIJAMAS? THAT’S FUCKING AWESOME LIKE YOUR WHOLE SELF IS, 10/10, CHEFF KISS.

☯ Look yourself with curiosity rather than judgment

☯ Your life is yours; you can do with it whatever makes you the happiest

☯ All these little steps will add up in the end... just trust!

☯ Remember that time can do most of the work you're trying to do all by yourself. Time is your friend. Time will heal, prepared, allow and bring clarity to any situation, if you're willing to let it do its work ♡

☯ Not everyone will understand you, and that's okay. That's expected. Just keep shining bright, my friend. Be as you are!

☯ Tomorrows are a fresh canvas at the palm of your hands... just wait those 24 hs! It will wipe your soul, everything will make sense, everything will fall into place ☼

☯ Negative thoughts are a product, a result of your life experiences. Our brains want to manifest and that's totally natural for humans to do. You are not guilty for being a vessel of information! Just remember, without darkness there can be no light; Yin and Yang. Negative can turn into positive. You deserve all the positivity you can dream of

☯ Hon, you're made of the same materials stars are made... scientifically, spiritually, both aspects or whatever you believe in... you're a fucking miracle with legs!

☯ No one gets to see this world as you do, no one gets to create things the way you do, no one gets to write, paint, sing, dance, laugh, FEEL the way you do! You're a whole mf Universe and that, my friend, makes you unique and so incredibly special!

☯ You are never alone. Never. Uh uh. No possible, when there's so many of us coexisting with each other. Separation is just an illusion of our daily basis. I don't know you and I still respect and love you so much on a human level ♡

♡ You’re worthy even when everything is a hot mess. You value goes beyond your productivity at college, or how much you provide to society, or whether you’re focusing on your grades or not. You’re amazing for so many things!

♡ Don’t let yourself get sick because of things you can’t control... Your health is the reason you are here. Nothing is worthy enough of losing your health.

♡ If somebody leaves you because your current situation... I promise you there’s nothing you can do, but hold the door open for them.

♡ You still have a whole life to find another passion, to redo an exam, to find better company... The world will still be there!

✿ Be patient

Just keep in mind you’re not under any catastrophic situation! You can get out of this, which is temporary. No need to be looking under a sea of possibilities. Be kind to yourself and remind youself you’re going to figure it out, soon or later.

✽ Talk

The main thing is to hear what you have to say. Let your thoughts out of your head, even if you feel like they have nothing to do with your feelings or they’re random thoughts. Whatever you feel like saying, say it. Even if it’s about how you don’t know what’s happening. Express your discontent about the uncertainty of the situation, and let yourself hear it. It’s important. Let it out.

✿ Validate yourself

Today, you can handle uncertainty like you did yesterday. You’re already awake about how there’s something going on and that’s already a huge progress on feeling better, believe me!

✽ Acceptance

You aren’t feeling as good as you wish you would and that’s okay. Whoever that suggest otherwise shouldn’t take a second of your time. Keep being you and figure it out at your own time.

✿ Not alone

How many people have felt the way you are feeling right now, through the history of the world, without having the opportunity to hear that feeling numb is a very common thing for a human? We have all been there on different levels, but you are capable of healing. Take that sentence, and hold it close to you because it’s true.

✽ There’s time

I promise you, you have time to get back on your feet, even if it takes a little longer than what you thought it would.

I don’t walk in your shoes. I don’t get to hear you crying when you’re alone. I don’t get to see your swollen eyes after, and I can’t grab your emotions with my bare hands to measure how heavy they are. But that is not keeping me at distance from you. Our struggles, as different as they may be, unite us.

And I believe you. I validate your pain. I know I’ll never understand how you feel.

I’m thinking of you this New Year and I’m here to tell you, don’t give up yet.

If nobody ever told you this, or you struggle to remember it: Your life is irreplaceable, and valuable. And to measure it, will be a mistake.

Measure your value is... so unfair.

And I promise you there’s room in your life for better things to come your way.