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I don't even think this should be a "rent-lowering gunshots" type of post, but here we are: "transandrophobia" plain-out does not exist. The word "transmisogyny" was coined to discuss the intersection between transphobia and misogyny, and "androphobia" or "misandry" do not fuckin exist as structural forces in the slightest. Men are not punished for Being Men, and trans men are men, plain and simple. The word you're looking for is transphobia, please just block me if you disagree with very literally any of this. K bye

wow what a good and witty post about sex positivity, it's just that, there's kind of this underlying feeling that, uh. hmm. one second. [searches "asexual" on op's blog] motherfucker

Asexuality win! Person who repeatedly pressured their ace partner to "compromise" on sex because it was "a necessary part of a healthy relationship" fucking dies. <3

i feel like the reason why there's so much overlap between transmisogyny and aphobia comes down to the fact that they both stem from social biases that practically no one has bothered to unlearn. the ideas that 'feminity is inherently degrading so any "man" who actively pursues it is shameful" and that "wanting sex/romance is intrinsic to human nature" have been so deeply, deeply ingrained in our societies that unless they are a member of those groups, which are Actively Opting Out of the things that society forces onto people, you rarely do the work to unpack and unlearn these same biases.

it makes me sad the way cis women are so terrified of and disgusted by their own body hair. and i'm not talking "i have to shave for sensory reasons" i mean i keep seeing videos of women using hair identifier spray on their faces and hands so they can shave the tiniest barely-there bits of peach fuzz that came free with their bodies. hair that serves a purpose and that purpose is cleanliness and protection. i mean when i was in elementary school girls who had barely hit puberty were talking about shaving their arms. i mean full-grown adult women who will have a breakdown if they see two days of stubble on their legs/crotch/ jaw/pits because god forbid you don't look like a perfect plastic barbie doll. god forbid your body that keeps you alive comes with hair that may not be soft and glossy and photogenic. some women are so afraid of having any hair apart from their head and eyebrows that they've uno reversed themselves into six different kinds of gender dysphoria that they can't recognize as such because they're convinced that this unnatural state of highly-groomed capital-informed beauty is how women have always been. you're so scared of looking "gross" or "ugly" or "mannish" that you can't even look at your body in the mirror and recognize what it is. sister you are an ape. why are you so determined to deny your nature.