Forgive me if this is a tired question. I’m just, quite confused. How do you find that ability to shift inside yourself when you’ve never done it before? How do you trust so fully that it’ll work when things seem stacked against you, or you just can’t convince yourself you’re there when you’re looking at this world. I do believe shifting is real, I think a lot do. But it’s finding that inner power that seems so many struggle with. Especially consistently. Like, deciding one day you have the power to shift… and then not proving yourself that you can, and then getting discouraged. Nobody wants to be claiming to be able to shift for weeks, months, or years and not actually see results. Which is why I think a lot of people stop. Because even when we DO seem to fully believe in ourselves we aren’t seeing the same results other shifters have had, so of course our brain goes to “well obviously I did something wrong somehow.” How do you get out of this cycle? Is it just.. luck that one day it finally works?
i get it, i really do. i struggled with this exact loop for years. it took me 5 whole years to shift successfully.
so when you say it feels like you believe, and then you don’t see results, and then your brain goes “i must be doing something wrong,” i completely understand that spiral. trust me. i lived in that spiral for the past 5 years before i shifted last year.
but this is where the shift in understanding has to happen.
because the version of you that feels like they’re “failing” or “not getting results” is the ego. it’s tied to the 3d. it’s the part of you that measures, compares, waits for proof, and then judges based on what it sees.
but that’s not who you are at your core.
and as awareness, there is nothing to prove and nothing to get right or wrong.
there is no “ability” you have to find or unlock.
because you’re not building something new, you’re recognising something that’s already there.
that’s why people say shifting is inherent.
you don’t learn how to be awareness. you already are it.
and awareness doesn’t operate on proof the way the 3d does.
it doesn’t need repeated success to confirm itself, and it doesn’t need evidence to exist.
so the cycle you’re talking about, deciding you can shift, not seeing it, getting discouraged, trying again, doubting again…
that cycle only exists when you keep identifying with the part of you that’s waiting for confirmation.
but if everything already exists within you, then your dr isn’t something you’re trying to reach.
it’s something that already is.
so it’s not about convincing yourself harder, or believing more intensely, or trying to “prove” it over time.
it’s about understanding that there is no failure here unless you decide there is.
because what would failure even mean in this context?
you can’t fail at being awareness, you can’t fail at something that is already happening.
and i know that sounds frustrating when you feel like you haven’t experienced it yet in the way you want.
but the moment you stop treating it like something distant that needs to be achieved, and start seeing it as something that is already within you.
that’s when that pressure starts to fall away.
it’s not luck, it’s not random, it’s just a shift in where you’re standing from.
from trying to get there to realising you already are.
and the reason i always emphasise figuring this out for yourself is because i can’t force my perception of reality onto you.
this is what i believe, and it’s what works for me. it’s built from everything i’ve learned, and more importantly, what i’ve personally realised.
for the longest time, i tried to copy other people’s understanding. i repeated their words, followed their methods, tried to make their perspective my own.
and it never worked. i always pretended like i understood, or that it “clicked” for me, but i always felt like an imposter.
what actually worked was when i stopped, chose what made sense to me, and committed to that.
and when i finally understood shifting through my own lens, that’s when everything clicked.
because those realisations weren’t borrowed anymore, they were mine. there wasn’t anybody else to ask, and nobody to tell me that i’m wrong. how can they when i made the rules?
so my most valuable advice will always be to trust yourself enough to arrive at your own understanding.
because the moment it becomes yours, it stops being something you’re chasing, and starts being something you know.