genuinely fucked up that if i want to interact with someone online i have to say words and have a conversation instead of just mashing my face against them like a cat

What I loved specifically about the slowburn to Avatrice is that the romantic tension precedes the sexual tension (fingers crossed for season 3). Most canon queer ships I've seen aren't slowburn, and the only way to do that is to amp up the sexual tension, which is based on physical attraction primarily, and that isn't something you need much narrative buildup for. Romantic tension actually takes time and narrative investment to develop. Sexual tension says "I imagine having sex with you", romantic tension says "I imagine having a relationship with you", and the latter is something that just takes time to build. The reason I prefer the latter is because the attachment is not, in the initial connection, built on hormones alone, it's based on genuine attachment from a shared history. It's not characters losing their heads over this other person they had sex with and then caught feelings for, it's characters building a relationship bit by bit and then imagining a physical relationship, which then isn't based on hormones alone but on a desire to be close to this person in every possible way. It's a dynamic specific to slowburns, and now that we've had this delicious romantic buildup, I would be happy for sex to happen next season. But the fact that romance preceded any sexual advances was really important to me, and I'm so glad they did it that way.