Spotted Tich

Just as frequently, however, there was no tragedy that preceded people’s transformations. Rather, they changed because they were embedded in social groups that made change easier. One woman said her entire life shifted when she signed up for a psychology class and met a wonderful group. “It opened a Pandora’s box,” the woman told researchers. “I could not tolerate the status quo any longer. I had changed in my core.” Another man said that he found new friends among whom he could practice being gregarious. “When I do make the effort to overcome my shyness, I feel that it is not really me acting, that it’s someone else,” he said. But by practicing with his new group, it stopped feeling like acting. He started to believe he wasn’t shy, and then, eventually, he wasn’t anymore. When people join groups where change seems possible, the potential for that change to occur becomes more real. For most people who overhaul their lives, there are no seminal moments or life-altering disasters. There are simply communities⏤sometimes of just one other person⏤who make change believable.

One woman told researchers her life transformed after a day spent cleaning toilets⏤and after weeks of discussing with the rest of the cleaning crew whether she should leave her husband.

“Change occurs among other people,” one of the psychologists involved in the study, Todd Heatherton, told me. “It seems real when we can see it in other people’s eyes.”

The precise mechanisms of belief are little understood. No one is certain why a group encountered in a psychology class can convince a woman that everything is different, or why Dungy’s team came together after their coach’s son passed away. Plenty of people talk to friends about unhappy marriages and never leave their spouse; lots of teams watch their coaches experience adversity and never gel. 

But we do know that for habits to permanently change, people must believe that change is feasible. The same process that makes AA so effective⏤the power of a group to teach individuals how to believe⏤happens whenever people come together to help one another change. Belief is easier when it occurs within a community.”

The way Isak’s thumb caresses Even’s Adam’s apple then his finger goes over his collarbone. 

I’m??? This is the stuff of long descriptions in books you never want to put down. 

this season is definitely going to have a happy ending!

i think a lot of international fans don’t get why they make skam. they don’t do it for profit (they actually don’t make a lot of money at a l l), they do it to educate/inform young people and to show what it’s like being young today, so it doesn’t seem so scary! there’s a reason why the target audience are fifteen year olds and the characters started high school last year - it’s to show the ppl still in middle school that high school comes with its ups and downs, but you’ll survive.

that is why they’ll defintiely show that being queer and coming out can be a positive process. they want to show that same-sex relationships are beautiful and fucking n o r m a l. they don’t want to show us that lgbtqia+ people always ultimately have to suffer or that same-sex relationships end bad - they want to show the exact opposite of that.

President Obama issues historic declaration for transgender bathroom rights in schools

Black Men Enlighten “Out” Magazine on The Origins of Gay Slang

Let’s be honest - gay media lacks representation of people of color. Not only that, they don’t want to acknowledge the origins of mainstream gay trends. On May 9, Out magazine published an article about how straight people steal slang and other trends from gay people, but did not bother to educate themselves on the true origins of those trends first. Needless to say the article sparked some outrage on the Internet. Hopefully that’ll teach Out a lesson, because if you want to support minorities, you can’t just pick out one, you have to support them all!