All this whole thing is telling me is a lot more of yall are willing to allow homophobia to exist in queer spaces than was realized. Its disappointing seeing familiar faces calling blatant homophobia just a comfort thing, and that its wrong to voice it when you see it.
My space, the server and community that I created and built, is a queer safe space. It is mine. Therefore homophobia of any kind is not allowed. Even if you are just homophobic by mindset, with or without actively attacking someone, that is enough for me to not want you in my space. You do not even think I should exist. You don’t think my friends or any of my loved ones are regular human beings to coexist with you.
The issue is I know you have an issue with our existence. I am not going to cater to you nor your entitlement to my own damn space just because you can’t have your way.
One thing yall love to ignore is that discomfort can be a two way fucking street. I’m not comfortable with you because I know you are uncomfortable with me. Yet you are throwing a fucking fit when our boundaries are set and we want nothing to do with yall. The double standard is crazy. I found out this person was homophobic, whether it was just internalized or what, removed them from my queer based space, and dmed them to communicate why so I wasn’t leaving them in the dark, and out of hopes that they will take it as a lesson to learn from it.
Instead of taking accountability and putting out an apology that they chose to do, they run a public apology that is so very clearly a plea for someone to take their side, making themselves out to be the victim, running to other servers to vent about it so they can paint a whole different picture, everyone else is claiming there was a callout post yet we all know there isnt one. We set our own boundary privately, and now because we hurt some feelings and said no to a homophobic mindset, people are losing their minds.
Tf is this the early 2000s or smth.
What’s crazy is they said to my face that they understood how it can appear harmful and they will grow and work on it. Then I proceed to watch them actively like and pay attention only to when someone is backing up what they did. The fakeness was all I needed to know that the fight aint worth it, and they are not sorry.
Yall are just pissed I said anything at all, because all I did was keep it private and civil, said no to a homophobic mindset in my space, and yall still made an uproar. Because the issue really is just that yall want us to accept the behavior, which is always expected of minorities.
It is exhausting how people out here are so fucking entitled to peoples spaces and comfort, that they think they should be allowed to do harmful things and get away with it. I cannot imagine a present world where the bystander effect were more prominent, because all yall would be so much more hateful and evil towards others because they wouldn’t be able to stand up for themselves at all.
We don’t care if you draw queer ships less than straight ships if at all, do what you fucking want, but if you publicly put it out there in writing, people will see it exactly for what it is and will say something about it. Whether that’s ensuring they do not come in contact with you or warning others just like them about your prejudice.
