The SpireFlux sys

• Neutral on TransID topics — We are not fully educated on TransID identities/discussions, so we stay mostly neutral. We would rather admit we do not know enough than spread misinformation or act overly confident on topics we are still learning about.

• Neutral / leaning anti-darkship & anti-proship — We personally believe topics like darkship/proship should remain private rather than openly/publicly shared, especially because these topics can sometimes be tied to coping mechanisms or deeply personal issues. We are uncomfortable with those spaces ourselves, but we also do not support harassment over fictional content. Our main concerns are privacy, boundaries, proper tagging, and keeping those discussions away from minors/general spaces.

• Anti pro-contact — We are strongly against encouraging contact with abusers, harmful entities, dangerous people, or anything similar. Please prioritize safety and reality over romanticization.

• We enjoy coining/making terms for both plural communities and LGBTQ+ identities! Most of our terms are made for fun, creativity, self-expression, self-indulgence, worldbuilding, or for friends. Anyone can use our terms, even people in our DNI. We do not believe in gatekeeping labels on the internet.

• Plural — We are prastressgenic plural. We may use terms like sysmates, headmates, alters, members, fragments, etc. interchangeably depending on comfort or context. We also switch between I/We pronouns often. We personally prefer the term “plural,” but “system” does not bother us either.

• Some of our opinions/beliefs may change over time as we learn more. We are human and allowed to grow, rethink things, or change perspectives.

• We support respectful self-expression and identity exploration. Labels are meant to help people understand themselves, not trap people into strict boxes forever.

• This account may contain discussions of plurality, identity, coping mechanisms, stress, derealization, unreality, fictionkin/fictives, trauma mentions, and other sensitive topics occasionally. Please curate your own space responsibly.

• We block freely and heavily curate our online experience. If you are blocked/unfollowed/ignored, do not take it personally. Sometimes we simply want a more comfortable timeline.

• We are not interested in discourse, purity culture, harassment campaigns, or callout behavior. Constant negativity is exhausting and we would rather focus on creativity and community.

• We are very attached to our original terms/flags/projects, so please do not directly steal, heavily copy, or repost them without permission/credit.

• Slow replies are normal for us. Energy issues, stress, motivation problems, internet issues, or switching can affect response times.

• Tone tags are appreciated but not required! We may occasionally misunderstand tone through text, especially in serious or sarcastic conversations.

• Please avoid venting heavily without permission first. Certain topics can be overwhelming for us unexpectedly.

• The owner of this blog is a masc genderfluid minor. Please interact carefully if you are 18+. Anyone under 13 DNI for your own online safety. People around 23–25+ preferably DNI or interact cautiously, as we are below 17 (but above 13). Please respect our boundaries and safety online.

• We have a BAH( @goobersbah ) ! If requests are closed when you see this, it is likely due to internet issues, stress, low energy, burnout, or motivation problems. We dislike leaving people waiting for long periods of time. Questions and casual interactions are usually still welcome unless stated otherwise.

• We are cringe but free. Being weird online is more fun than forcing ourselves to be “normal” all the time.

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• Forsaken fandom DNI / interact with extreme caution — We have had extremely negative experiences with people from this fandom, especially involving old friends, and it heavily ruined our perspective on the game/community overall. Please do not bring up Forsaken around us unless we mention it first. We would strongly prefer this fandom to stay away from our page entirely.

• Hazbin Hotel / Helluva Boss / Vivziepop fandom interact with caution — We are uncomfortable with both the fandom and many of the topics/content surrounding the media itself. Some aspects of the creator’s behavior, fandom culture, shock humor, and the way certain subjects are handled make us uncomfortable overall. Please do not constantly mention these media around us or force us into fandom discussions.

• Country Humans fandom interact cautiously unless we know you well — We are not heavily involved in the fandom and generally do not fully trust the community due to past experiences and the nature of some content within it. Especially interact cautiously if you heavily favor/glorify problematic countries/characters, romanticize wars/conflicts, or treat serious history like an aesthetic.

• Extremely toxic/chronically online Pony Town players DNI — If your entire existence revolves around drama, stalking, vague posting, harassment, purity culture, clique behavior, or treating Pony Town like a life-or-death battlefield, stay away from us.

• Heavy fandom discourse accounts DNI — If your account is mostly dedicated to harassing people over ships, headcanons, canon accuracy, or “problematic” fiction 24/7, we will probably not get along.

• Please do not force fandom/media discussions onto us after we say we are uncomfortable. Repeatedly bringing up topics we dislike “as a joke” will get you blocked.

• We may enjoy media casually without wanting fandom interaction. Enjoying something does NOT automatically mean we want to engage deeply with its fandom/community.

• We are very cautious around fandom spaces that normalize harassment, dogpiling, doxxing, stalking, purity culture, or obsession over strangers online.

• If you constantly mock people for harmless interests/hyperfixations, DNI. Being cringe online is not the end of the world.

• Fandom elitists DNI — We do not care if someone is a “real fan,” knows every piece of lore, owns rare merch, or has liked something longer than others. Please go outside.

• People who intentionally spoil media repeatedly after being asked not to DNI.

• People who make liking dark/problematic fiction their entire personality interact cautiously. We do not want graphic topics randomly shoved into conversations.

• “Anti-cringe” people DNI — If you spend your free time bullying people for being weird, passionate, self-indulgent, or creative online, you sound exhausting.

• We are uncomfortable around fandom spaces that heavily sexualize everything constantly, especially around minors/general audiences.

• Please do not compare us to characters/fandom stereotypes constantly. It gets uncomfortable very quickly.

• We block/mute fandoms and communities freely for comfort reasons. It is rarely personal and usually just us protecting our online space and mental health.

• If you aggressively defend creators/communities that repeatedly harm others and refuse accountability, interact cautiously or DNI.

• We would rather enjoy media peacefully than constantly argue about it online.

I need to get this out before I explode.

This is about one person. Not a group. Not “people.” One.

At the time all of this started, I was an unlabeled plural system. I didn’t use endogenic / OSDD/DID labels for personal reasons. I just said I was plural. That should’ve been the end of it.

It wasn’t.

The moment I came out after them, it was like something in them flipped and suddenly I was lying. Suddenly my entire existence was something they felt entitled to debate, pick apart, and rewrite like they had any authority over me at all.

And I need to say this clearly: it was never questions. It was never “confusion.”

It was accusations dressed up as certainty.

I was told I was faking because I didn’t fit their idea of what a system is supposed to look like. If my experiences didn’t match theirs, I was fake. If I did match something, it was twisted anyway. No matter what I said, it was always being filtered through what they already decided about me.

There was no room for me to actually exist as myself.

And then it got worse in ways that honestly still piss me off when I think about it.

I (Angel) was accused of being the “alter of their abusive ex” just because I had a similar name and similar pronouns.

That’s it.

A coincidence.

And instead of using their brain for even five seconds, they just decided I must be connected to someone else’s past like I’m not even my own person.

That alone tells me everything I need to know.

On top of that, instead of ever talking to me directly like an actual person, they constantly talked about me to my best friend. Like that was normal. Like I wouldn’t find out. Like my best friend wouldn’t tell me everything they were saying.

They acted like I was supposed to just stay unaware while they built a version of me behind my back.

And I’m not going to lie — that part makes my blood boil.

Because if you have a problem with me, say it to me. Not around me. Not through other people. Not like I’m some background character in my own life.

Then there’s the constant accusations I never even claimed things I didn’t say. Especially stuff like labels or diagnoses I never once said I had. I never claimed DID. I never claimed anything I didn’t say. But it didn’t matter — it still got repeated like it was fact anyway.

And the hypocrisy?

Insane.

I was being called a “mental threat,” talked about like I was dangerous, like I was something to be monitored… while they were still choosing to stay involved, still watching, still inserting themselves into my life like I was the one who wouldn’t let go.

Make it make sense.

You don’t get to call someone a threat and then refuse to step away from them. That’s not logic. That’s obsession dressed up as justification.

And the worst part is what it did to me.

Because when someone is that loud and that confident about you being “fake,” it gets in your head whether you want it to or not. You start questioning yourself. You start replaying everything. You start wondering what version of you is going to be twisted next into “proof” against you.

And I hate that.

I hate that I ever started doubting myself because of someone else’s ego.

I’m angry.

I’m tired.

And I’m done pretending this was just some normal misunderstanding or “drama,” because it wasn’t.

It was someone deciding they knew me better than I know myself and refusing to let it go.

So I’m asking:

Has anyone else dealt with a close friend fake claiming them like this?

And how do you deal with it when it starts messing with your head so badly you can’t even tell where you end and their voice begins?

I've seen people talk about wanting fusion, integration, final fusion, becoming singlet again, or just reducing separation between alters, and some of the reactions are honestly ridiculous. People act like the system just announced they're committing some horrible betrayal against themselves. Suddenly everyone has an opinion. Everyone wants to tell them they're making a mistake. Everyone wants to explain why they shouldn't want that.

Why?

Since when did other people's recovery goals become a community decision?

What bothers me most is how often the same people who constantly demand respect for their own experiences suddenly stop respecting other people's experiences the second they hear something they don't personally relate to. They'll preach acceptance, understanding, and autonomy all day long, but the moment a system says, "Actually, I want to become one person again," suddenly that acceptance disappears.

It's honestly hypocritical.

Not everybody experiences plurality the same way. Not everybody feels the same way about their alters. Not everybody has the same relationship with their system. Not everybody wants the same future.

Some people want to remain separate forever.

Some people want partial integration.

Some people want final fusion.

Some people aren't sure what they want.

And all of those are perfectly fine.

What I find especially frustrating is when people start treating fusion like it's some kind of death sentence. They'll talk about it as if alters are being erased, murdered, deleted, or destroyed no matter how the people involved actually feel about it. Meanwhile the system that wants fusion is sitting there saying they're happy, comfortable, and actively choosing it.

Why are strangers trying to be offended on their behalf?

You don't get to decide what somebody else's happiness looks like.

You don't get to decide what somebody else's healing looks like.

You don't get to decide what somebody else's future should look like.

If a system says they want to become one person again and they're making that decision for themselves, then that's their choice. It is their mind. It is their life. It is their experience.

The amount of fearmongering surrounding fusion sometimes genuinely feels unhealthy. Some people talk about it like it's the worst possible outcome when, for many systems, it can be a completely positive and fulfilling goal. Just because it isn't what you would want doesn't make it bad.

And honestly, I think some people have become so attached to the idea that plurality must always remain permanent that they've forgotten that personal autonomy exists. The goal shouldn't be making everyone choose the same path. The goal should be letting people choose the path that feels right for them.

A system wanting to stay multiple isn't wrong.

A system wanting to become one isn't wrong.

A system changing their mind isn't wrong.

A system being unsure isn't wrong.

What is wrong is acting like people owe you a specific outcome because it makes you more comfortable.

At the end of the day, nobody should be pressured into fusion, and nobody should be pressured away from it either. Both are equally important. People deserve the freedom to decide what they want for themselves without having random strangers turning it into a debate.

I just find it bizarre that some people claim to support system autonomy while actively getting angry when systems make choices they personally wouldn't make. If you truly believe people should have control over their own experiences, then that support shouldn't suddenly disappear the moment somebody's goals differ from yours.

Not every system wants the same ending to their story, and that's okay. The problem starts when people stop respecting that.