I'm making this post because while I tend to stay out of fandom "discourse" for a variety of reasons, racism in our fandom isn't discourse and shouldn't be classified as such, imo.
I'm white, so I don't talk about it because I feel like I shouldn't. There are so many brilliant people of color in this fandom who have made better posts than I ever could, and I strongly feel that it is THEM we should be listening to. Not me. There are enough white people talking over people of color in real life, I didn't want to take up space here in our fandom, too.
But, as I've seen more and more the pain, the frustration, the anger at their very valid concerns being dismissed, ignored, or argued against, I've realized that maybe my silence could be hurtful in another way. I want my blog to be a safe, inclusive space for EVERYONE. I don't want anyone to feel like I don't care, or worse, that I agree with some of the frankly disgusting bullshit that has happened. I don't want my silence interpreted as a lack of care, or concern.
I may not talk about it, or post about it, but I do see things. I quietly unfollowed some blogs, followed others. I have stated before, and I will again, that if you catch something in any of my works that I didn't see, please tell me. I don't want my blog, or my writing, to be hurtful. I don't want anyone to feel like they can't call me out.
I see the way people in this fandom love to jump in on discourse over a nasty comment about a skirt, but can't be bothered to talk about how when people of color point out hurtful things, stereotypes, and blatantly racist scenarios or characterizations they get tons of hate for it. They get blasted with hate anons simply for speaking up, or publicly dragged by the accounts they've tried to talk with.
I have seen the callouts, and I've seen some people accept it with grace, issue apologies and move on, trying to be better. I've also seen grown adults having meltdowns and behaving with a staggering level of immaturity and ignorance.
At the end of the day, I don't think that any of us get to decide what is hurtful to someone else. We also don't get a say in who forgives us, either. Apologies can certainly help, if made from a place of remorse and followed by action, but saying you're sorry doesn't guarantee anyone will accept it. If I, knowingly or not, hurt someone...it's not up to me to pass judgement on what I did to cause the hurt, or make excuses for it. It is up to me to acknowledge it, atone, such as I can, and it is up to the person that I hurt to forgive me or not. And we both will live with it, whatever the outcome.
I guess the point of this is just to say that I see it. I hear it. And I agree that it's a major issue. I have thoughts and opinions, lots of them, but my voice, as a white woman, is frankly unimportant. There are a lot of people of color in this fandom who can speak with authority on racism, on what hurts and what doesn't, and we should all be paying attention to THEM. Because ignoring a problem doesn't make it go away, so let's stop ignoring it.






















