*Updated 4/24/26
A little bit about me…
I am getting more and more basic questions about me so I thought I’d put some standard things here.
I’m male, he/him.
I’m 53.
I’m 6’ 4” or 193 cm.
I currently weigh around 485. It goes up and down and, over time, mostly up. I’ll update here as necessary.
I’m straight. Thank you gentlemen for your very kind and flattering messages, but I am not gay.
I am a gainer. I also identify as a feedee and feeder. I feel incredibly lucky. I’m attracted to women of all shapes and sizes and identities. I think contrast is amazingly sexy. I also think mutual gaining is super hot. And anything in between.
I have been an FA/feedist all my life. My earliest memories are of this interest. I don’t call it a fetish because that is both over inclusive and under inclusive. It is a lifestyle or maybe a kind of orientation. And fetish is reductive in that most hear that word and immediately think sex. Of course this is sexual, but so are intellect and kindness and cuddling and caretaking. And I have been into being and loving fat since long before I knew what sex was or how amazing girls would become at about age 13.
I haven’t always been fat. I was slim or average most of my life. I was about 210 in the fall of 2018.
It’s very hot to me that things are getting very difficult. I want a woman to share that experience with and who revels in me being so fat I not only want her, I need her.
Do I have a goal? Not as such. See the previous paragraph. I’d like to share this with a special someone and if she is on board for more, I am too.
* I’m also getting this question a lot:
How do I get fat like you? How do I get a belly like yours? How did you get so fat in such a short period of time? How do I get your shape?
I wish I had a satisfying answer for these questions. I just ate. A lot. Whatever I wanted. And as much as I wanted. I hit plateaus all the time. I go through periods where I feel like I eat massive amounts of food but don’t gain. And I go through periods where I gain rapidly. It comes and goes. The only reliable way to gain weight in my experience is to eat a lot, all the time.
I never really enjoyed being active or playing sports or working out so I didn’t do much. I do wish I had spent more time and effort to strengthen my legs and back. But I’m ok. I also don’t think there’s any way to control or even influence where the fat goes or how it looks. Deposition of body fat is a matter pretty much of genetics. It goes where it goes. If you find any reliable scientific studies that say you can influence where it goes, please let me know. I’d like to be able to control it too.
