I've been reading through some of @mousidy's #transfemvoicesproject (and posted my own on there a while back), and noticing with an immense amount of sadness how many transfems on there (especially lately) don't know what "counts" as sexual harassment, or assault even. And it makes me sad, because the same was true of my earliest experiences.
There's so much transmisogyny that not only are we sexually assaulted, but we aren't even given the autonomy to call what we went through sexual assault. I don't know if others feel the way I did, but with my CSA experiences I even felt ashamed to bring it up as sexual assault, as if my defining it as such was somehow "watering down" the term for folks that I'd been taught were the only ones who could be granted victimhood. I was literally raped by an adult and I thought it was wrong of me to call it that, because I had the wrong body parts.
And I want every TME person reading this to really think on what that does to a child. To experience something so awful, and to think "I can't view it that way, I must be mistaken, I must have actually enjoyed it", even though every time afterwards I cried myself to sleep or self-harmed. At least one of my suicide attempts was connected to these instances. But my thought wasn't even for myself, it was out of concern that I not hurt others, even tho one of those rapists was a cis woman. I was more worried about protecting the rights of my rapist than I was about addressing the problems it caused me, let alone trying to get any kind of justice. And all of this was well before I even knew the word "transgender".
And my story is hardly abnormal if the posts in that project are to be believed. Yet there's still this entire fucking effort to label us transfems as monsters, to say that we are rapists and ESPECIALLY child rapists, to say that we are incapable of being victims because of how we're born. Where is your humanity???
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