Vessel

it is kind of surreal to watch someone who is not transfem be like “well because they were raised as men, trans women did get the chance to learn to take up space and the like” and then every trans woman you talk to is a broken beaten shell of a thing who’s too traumatized to raise her voice or sit with her legs apart, i will say

I’m certainly not the first transfem to bring this up but there really is something to be said about how tmes arguing with trans women will suddenly and irrelevantly bring up their own personal trauma as a way to shut down any disagreement. I.e. once the trauma has been laid out any further disagreement with their initial argument can be framed as diminishing or even celebrating their trauma. I’ve seen this happen too many times not to notice a pattern

the contradiction disappears when you realize that in their minds some bodies are worth being protected from trauma and some aren't.

im not an "amab enby" i am transfem

when someone calls me 'amab' i assume they want me to kill myself

they gotta put all their eggs in the "male socialization" basket cause some trans women don't even have the body parts they fearmonger about but they still want to control them

8 years of me going "wow the experiences that trans women describe about growing up in a prison of masculinity and feeling drawn to femininity despite how forbidden it feels to like it openly are so intensely relatable. i guess i don't feel a strong relationship to masculinity myself but i'm not like, you know, trans or something. im okay with being a man." before i realized it btw

maybe if people didn't call me cis+. maybe if i'd seen more transfem enbies have their transness taken seriously instead of being written off as "basically men". maybe if i didn't see transfem enbies treat themselves as basically men and strangers to transness. maybe if i saw more transfem enbies period. i don't know.

everywhere in the queer community transfems are made to be slightly outside of it