✧ OBEY YOUR MASTER! ✧

Born a woman, Nadezhda Durova (birth name) ran away from home and joined a light cavallery regiment dressed as a man.

After his identity was uncovered, the russian tsar summoned him to the palace at St. Petersburg, where he impressed the tsar so much that he awarded Durov the Cross of St. George and promoted him to lieutenant in a hussar unit.

He always referred to himself as a man and was upset when people called him a woman.

He signed letters with his male last name.

He expressed feelings of disgust towards his sex and how that worried him a lot.

He never married willingly and adopted many dogs and cats.

He only danced with women when attending a ball.

He asked to be buried under his male name Alexander Andreevich Alexandrov but the church did not agree to that.

I never saw him in "historical transmasculine people" compilations and only discovered his story coincidentally.

Unfortunately, historians still adress him with female pronouns, although he did not want that.

Let's remember him together. We won't allow him to be forgotten.

I'll probably add onto this post later or make a better one but you can read a lot on this wikipedia article:

god the poor man. being more or less "out" to many people during his lifetime got him misgendered almost constantly, he made his feelings on the matter clear...and scholars still won't stop doing it

Aleksandrov was irate, writing to Pushkin “the name which you called me [his deadname], dear sir Aleksandr Sergeevich, in the preface haunts me! Is there no remedy for my grief? You called me by that name that makes me shudder, and soon 20,000 people will read it and call me by it too!”

And I rarely see those same people having that energy towards the abusers being talked about. If anyone is “making the community look bad” it’s 100% the people who choose to be abusive.

Victims and survivors are allowed to tell their stories. For a lot of survivors breaking that silence is a huge part of being able to move on. And it’s absolutely vital that we don’t sweep abuse under the rug because it’s uncomfortable to admit.

Since most people who are going to come across those posts and be convinced of what they're saying are themselves part of the trans community, they're being groomed to accept that abuse is something you let happen and shut up about when it happens within the community.

Which is not something most trans people believe, but it's easy to buy into when you genuinely care about (other) trans people and you've seen queerphobes use accusations of abusive behaviors against us as a group and also individuals.

But think about those cases you heard about on the news of TERFs making accusations, really think about them. How many were sexual assault accusations? Very few.

There have been more credible accusations, usually from other trans and otherwise marginalized people, than false accusations by far. We know this to be true.

Not because trans people are more likely than cis people to be abusers or assault someone, but because this is true across the board. False accusations are rare, even against marginalized people.

Hysterical bigoted white women are not, in masses, falsely accusing BIPoC men and trans women of rape. That's a misogynistic belief that does a great job selling rape culture ideas to progressive people.

If you join a community and are told not to believe victims and that sweeping things under the rug is necessary for the safety of the group, that's an abusive environment steeped in rape culture and you should not be a part of it.

That attitude doesn't protect trans people as a whole, it protects abusers. In the majority of cases, the ones who will get hurt and left carry the pain alone in secret and shame will be other trans people.

A community that protects abusers and expects silence from victims to protect their collective image/reputation is not safe. It can't be. Not when it's the family system you were born into, nor a religious group, friend group or any sort of community.

Please listen to victims. Protect your fellow trans people. Just 1 person being allowed to freely abuse others is enough for an entire community to suffer. Please read this blog post if you still aren't convinced:

No one think it's insane that there's a group of white women on here barking the terms "social murder" "lynching" "gangstalking" and invoking the name of Emmett Till while I had a mutual aid platform that worked fundamentally that went down when I spoke up on the intent behind some anti carceral rhetoric on my timeline????

Does the fact that I was targeted and suicide baited 250 times and had to choose between eating and bills not alarm you?

I FOUND csm hubs. I found stuck children obviously groomed. Minors speaking up and/or to me in confidence after my words, saying they don't feel safe online anymore. Some of them trans girls.

And I still suffer for it?? That's not insane to you?

That should make you feel murderous because that is the definition of transmisogynoir.

Everyone's valid until a black girl vehemently morally disagrees with them. Then, her life, blood, sweat and tears can go up in flames. The FOUR YEAR culmination of my career gone in an instant because I have a brain and an inscrutable moral center.

It's not just that I will resent this. I am scared for my life. I am scared I will be back in my hoarder father's home. I am scared for those children I see myself in on here. And I do not just want our justice, I will vengeance.

If you care about me at all, you'll reblog or shoot me 5. That is a mountain of work lost that recovering poetry reblogs or follower numbers won't return.

My traction is dead. Fucking help me if you care about black people and the children I've fed the fuck at all.

I bring a sort of "If I'm stable, I can assure that others are stable" vibe to the table that conditional, racist white communists don't really fucking like.

My cash and pay never changed. Agenderdread is my brand.

V_nmo is deejwalker365

Help undo this harm. Help me fucking survive.

I was fucking outed by this. Do you understand that these people misgendered me, first? Do you understand that that is expressly her fucking kink? That's not disgusting to you???

I already give so much time, head space, ear to every fucking community that makes up my minority but I was completely, emotionally, traumatically betrayed by tumblrs trans community.

I AM OWED SOMETHING!!!!

I DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS

MY PAIN WAS ENOUGH FOR OTHERS TO SPEAK UP

HELP ME REBUILD

HELP ME STAY SAFE

PROTECT OUR INTERSECTIONS!!!!