Spades Players DNI

yes, and every time you complain we take one away

it's important to have your own unique door knock so people know it's you. a knock consists of stressed knocks, unstressed knocks and silences. as the creator of this system and thus the first person to note down my knock, i will claim the knock consisting of only silences (it's a zero-based index). Now would you please answer the door

I wholeheartedly support this system and as such I would like to claim the knock consisting of two bouts of silence

we need fewer songs about falling in love and breaking up and MORE songs about famous disasters of the sea

being told you’d cruise the seas for american gold you’d fire no guns, shed no tears, now you’re a broken man on a halifax pier might not be a universal experience, but like neither is the club. so a little perspective might be nice

And I think we've all faced the feeling that we've lost all hope, and might really benefit from an encouragement to rise again, rise again, though your heart it be broken, or life about to end. No matter what you've lost, be it a home, a love, a friend, like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again... that might resonate

there's a simply incredible amount of posts where my only reaction is just "wow. I like neither of you, somehow."

the most valueable skill a white leftist can ever learn is how to take an L with grace.

You gotta be able to take an L if your moral and ethical belief systems are to be capable of guiding you. Otherwise you just have an idealized self where you get really mad and scared when anyone points out it isn't actually you. How the fuck are you gonna walk the walk if you can't handle being told when you are not, in fact, actually walking it

you cannot just socially transition into being a good person you are going to have to settle for being a messy human being who has to try and fail and keep trying to get better like everyone else. yeah even when it's embarassing and sucks for you a lot.

Ya gotta learn to earnestly and honestly say "Oh shit, my bad."

And to then end the sentence there, not launch into a paragraph of explanation or panicked super-apology.

remembering this one time my father, a devout catholic who thinks of himself as progressive and believes in evolution etc, where we were arguing about "souls" and he was saying obviously animals don't have souls but humans do. and i said well you believe evolution happened. and he said yes. and i said so at some point as hominids were evolving did they just develop souls when they got 'human-like' enough? and without skipping a beat he said, yeah, at some point god said "okay you seem enough like humans" and a non-ensouled primate gave birth to an ensouled human child. and that's why humans have souls.

There's a recurring online tendency to aestheticize consensus itself. The imagined future village is full of emotionally compatible people who enjoy communal gardening, conflict resolution circles, acoustic folk music, mutual aid potlucks, and repairing bicycles together at sunset. Which is nice for the people who genuinely enjoy that lifestyle. But plenty of humans are solitary, prickly, obsessive, urban, nocturnal, sensory-seeking, technologically attached, contrarian, novelty-seeking, private, or just plain difficult. Those people do not evaporate after the revolution. They do not get Left Behind while you are Raptured into the Utopia. They become your neighbors.

Some of your problems have a systemic cause, and some of your problems do not...

It exists and it's called Portland, Oregon

and he’s right