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actually remembering to make pride merch for once.. theyll be keychains once i have add a few more!

these are the plans so far-

*(that I have posted about on this blog & in no particular order)

this is allosexism.

why are we pitting aces and lesbians against each other? especially considering there are people who are ace AND lesbian?

what magical ace place are you in where asexuality is so well known for it to be headcanoned that often? because it sure as hell is not the mainstream.

"blame" is a very strange word to use with either lesbianism or asexuality.

the reason this happens is because a lack of interest in men isn't the defining feature of lesbianism, an interest in women is. if a female character shows no interested in men but doesn't show interest in women either, it's not that far-fetched to headcanon her as ace (or aro). she could be ace, a lesbian in denial or even wlnb, but you don't even see that as a valid option. assuming a lack of attraction to men from a woman can only mean lesbianism and suggesting anything else is wrong is allonormative. you very clearly still see allo as the default. and funnily enough these are usually the same people who will see a female character show interest in both women and men and still disregard her interest in men to insist she can't be anything but lesbian. it's almost like you keep shifting the goalpost to uphold your precious gay/straight orientation binary.

if you really found that magical place where everyone headcanons these characters as ace, how come you haven't found the people who headcanon them as ace lesbians? because i assure you they do exist. elsa from frozen is probably the most well-known example where many headcanon her as an ace lesbian, an aro lesbian or an aroace lesbian.

They ignore the fact that not everyone with a fertile uterus and ovaries, regardless of gender, wants to get pregnant and give birth. They ignore the fact that a lot of us live in places where abortion is difficult, if not impossible, to access. They ignore the fact that pregnancy permanently alters a person's body, and that it can be lethal.

I've even seen some try to point out that some trans men/mascs intentionally get pregnant and give birth as some sort of "gotcha," but those guys are just as capable of making their own choices as the rest of us. The existence of men who choose to carry children does not invalidate those of us who are unwilling.

Anyone talking about forced pregnancy as a tool of (typically medical, but it can also be social) detransition is not trying to personally trigger your dysphoria.

This is a personal gripe each time I see more about the topic, but i'm rather sick of feeling like the topic needs to be tiptoed around, like a disclaimer needs to be there for someone else's dysphoria. I am also sick of having to be cordial when others make it about their dyspyoria. Us speaking on our issues isn't about you nor does it imply anything about you and vice versa.

If someone's dysphoria is triggered by others being themselves or speaking on certain things, that is the dysphoric person's responsibility to work through. Silencing important conversations around systemic issues because of how you feel about it, is not that.

*use of trans people at the start is here to include those who aren't women and/or transfem yet still share the same dysphoria.

Revised aroace flag after some conversation among community members! The old flag I made can be found here, but I decided to change it after some criticisms that I received. This was primarily made with the experiences of aroaces who don’t split their attraction in mind since that’s how I feel and why I made it in the first place (also why it’s not purple and green) but any aroace-spectrum person can use it and there’s no need to credit me as it’s meant to be a community symbol. If you want things with this flag on it, check my Redbubble!

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Color meanings are under the cut!

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