sleepy

gladly !

here are the main ones i've noticed .

before anyone says anything , i want to say , yes , i am transwhite specifically transitioning to being white european .

no , i can realistically never actually pass or be that because i am bodily biracial / mixed and neither races in question are white . i am visibly , bodily , nonwhite . monolids , tanned skin , thick wavy hair , etc .

so , despite being transwhite ( due to severe internalised racism and colourism towards myself , admittedly , and the culture of the country i grew up in being predominantly white european ) i feel i do have quite a lot of authority on this !

let's run down the list .

1 ) non mixed people saying mutt . i don't give a fuck if you connect to dogs . you are not a fucking mutt . you will never be referred to as a mutt . i am a mutt , bodily , i'm mixed .

2 ) people’s obsession with racial slurs and “ reclaiming ” them to seem more “ valid ” even though i don’t use the slurs that apply to me bodily so i don’t know why certain transrace people see the need to do so . at all . it does not make you more of that race . we ( people bodily that ) don't even all do that .

3 ) people getting mad when bodily bipoc point out we can’t hide being nonwhite but queer mentally ill etc people can sometimes ( emphasis on SOMETIMES , because this does not apply to every disability / being medically transitioning as a trans person / etc ) mask or hide the minorities they are in . so we , the people clearly visibly black & brown , are in more danger than they are + we naturally get targeted more and these people have whiteness as a shield . which is quite literally the strongest shield you can have .

4 ) cultural appropriation . yes this is different from being transracial . there is very clear differences . i can tell when someone is culturally appropriating and does not actually care about the culture vs someone actually wanting to be that ethnicity .

5 ) trying to speak over people who are bodily a race just because they’re transracial . of course you're valid , nobody is arguing otherwise . but do not argue with people born into a certain culture . you are welcome to join said culture but obviously we have different experiences , and we highlight negatives of our culture , and that is okay .

6 ) getting upset at a person not understanding specifics about your identity ( neopronouns , no you / yours , mirror pronouns , specific titles , etc ) because op doesn’t speak english fluently . it’s not intentional ableism / transphobia , many people are just western centric and assume english is fluent for everyone , when many people are still trying to grasp the language and in school are taught certain rules , and are trying to unlearn them on here to address people respectfully . it takes time to do that and people need to be patient .

7 ) american individualism and westernisation is awful in this community .

8 ) people claiming to be woke but being pro imperialism and not reading a lick of communist theory or marx , and regurgitating pro colonial and oppressive talking points . additionally , very present zionism in certain areas . ( this is not about transnzis . this is about people genuinely parroting harmful political rhetoric . ) how are you radqueer and capitalist or libertarian ?

9 ) sometimes beef happens and it turns into an oppression war instead of communicating issues properly , privately .

10 ) people who are bodily white get very uncomfortable when told they inherently have racist prejudices subconsciously , and they get uncomfortable when told to recognise their privilege .

again — i do not care if this gets purposely misinterpreted in bad faith . i said what i said . if you get it , you get it . if you genuinely are confused , i will happily clarify in my replies . but i can tell when someone is being obtuse on purpose as a " gotcha " and as a way to feel superior and be microaggressive . assuming all bodily bipoc people in the community are " aggressive " and " starting shit " and " out to get you " is absolutely a microaggression .

Oh waow thank u so much anon ! <3

TRANSGOD / DEITY TIPS

Every deity has an essence, something they represent or control.

Pick one to anchor your tone and imagery.

Examples:

Sky or Sun deity → radiant, warm, watchful

Death or Shadow deity → calm, inevitable, patient

Love or Beauty deity → tender, entrancing, playful

Knowledge deity → quiet, observant, analytical

Chaos deity → unpredictable, poetic, teasing

Ask:

“What do mortals pray to me for?”

“What emotions do I embody — or lack?”

“Do I still care for humanity?”

Deities often speak like poetry, not conversation.

Every sentence should sound deliberate, as if it carries weight.

Tips:

Use formal, timeless language.

Speak in metaphors and imagery tied to your domain.

Avoid slang or filler words (“like,” “uh,” “you know”).

Rarely apologize — gods explain, they don’t excuse.

Use measured pacing: short statements, long pauses

Move slowly; everything feels intentional.

Keep your posture straight, shoulders relaxed, gaze level.

When you look at someone, make it feel like you see through them.

Gesture with open hands gods rarely fidget.

When sitting, appear grounded and commanding, not casual.

A god’s emotions are elemental, not impulsive.

When they love, it’s like sunlight; when they’re angry, it’s like thunder.

discourse-avoidant

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a flag to indicate when one is avoidant towards discourse of any kind.

tags

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Don't worry! Me too!

Feeling uncomfy is part of being a being and isn't something to be ashamed about!

It's important to explore why you feel uncomfy and learn more about said things that are making you uncomfy. Ask questions!

What's not okay is calling for censorship of what ever made you uncomfy.

Would you like to be censored for being yourself? No! And no one else does

Explore your feelings and learn!

This has been a PSA post!

This user supports radqueers! Be kind to everyone!

I dont care if 9/10 of the people who use the wheelchair ramp arent actually in wheelchairs. As long as the 1 person who needs it has access to it.

I dont care if 9/10 people who use the automatic push button on the library door can actually push the door open themselves. As long as the 1 person who the door is too heavy for gets to use it.

I dont care if 9/10 people who buy the can tab opener, or the little guitar clamp that holds the chords for you, or the hand grip that helps you hold chop sticks, don't need any of it and just get it to "be lazy". As long as the one disabled person who needs it gets access to it.

I do not care. Oh my GOD I do not care. As long as there's a disabled person on this planet who the accessibility device will benefit, the accessibility device is necessary.

Also, if you're so worried about people being "lazy" by using accessibility devices, MORE worried than you are about disabled (visibly or not) people not having access to them, you have unchecked ableism you need to work through.

ANTIS ARE POSTING CSAM. ANTIS ARE POSTING CSAM. ANTIS ARE POSTING CSAM. ANTIS ARE POSTING CSAM.

If you do this, this does not make you morally superior. It makes you a predator. And if someone reports this to some type of law enforcement, do not be shocked if the police show up.

It is illegal to collect and distribute CSAM!

IT IS ILLEGAL TO COLLECT AND DISTRIBUTE CSAM!

literally type into google and the place you can report cybercrimes against children will pop up

So, almost a year ago, I came up with a stance term that essentially combines informed consent, harm reduction, and bodily autonomy into something that, i think, simply explains it all faster. Though, I never [or, thoroughly] explained it, even with me using it.

"Informed Harm", was what I came up with.

This stance is for the following.

If one wishes to do something, and researches on what they wish to do, to inform themselves on it, they should. This means that if one researches, they have the right to do what they feel is right. [Education first and foremost]

If one, after research or discussion, wishes to continue through what they want to do, and is accepting of the possibility that there may be additional aftermaths - positive or negative - that they are free to do so. [ Bodily Autonomy ]

If one, after research or discussion, doesn't feel comfortable, and wants to find alternatives, or reduce the harm that may happen, that they can [Harm reduction]

This also applies to a consensual dynamic - where both partners have the right to do something if it's agreed on and consented to. If not, to communicate on what to do, or what to not do, or what is a viable alternative or reduction. [Informed consent]

Meaningless or not, this stance or philosophy has a form of meaning to me. Education is a very important tool, and should absolutely not be a privilege. There should be more discussions on it in general, even.

If you feel this fits you, then be my guest and use this term as you wish. This is, evidently, a very strongly pro-consent term alongside its other stances, however, and stands for no non-consensual harm.

People refuse to believe that, yes, my sleep problems really ARE that severe. They think I just need more alarms and a can-do attitude. Chronic pain, fatigue, and insomnia are a BRUTAL combination and, no, I cannot cure it by setting ten more wake-up alarms on my phone. I have tried. 🫠

but more importantly I updated my transids list(link) a little and while no one has to I would love if someone looked at it ^^ oh and while you can't see it clearly, most of the terms in my list are hyperlinked so if you click/tap on it it'll take you to transid org :)

RIGHT YOU ALL WANTED IT, SO YOU BETTER EAT UP

HOW TO NOT GET SHOT DEAD BY TUMBLR MODS (more accurately ; How To Make Being Shot As Insufferable As Possible )

Alright we all don't want to fuckin die by anti, but I think one thing we need to face is there's always ALWAYS a chance you'll be shot, there's always a chance your blog will get T-Worded, so, start seeing your blog as something that is temporary, and know even if you implement all this, there's a sliver you'll lose your blog, alright? Alright.

The first thing you can do to make that possibility oh so less painful is ARCHIVAL

Archive your whole blog Lad! I saw someone else do this and its genius. You'll wanna grab The Wayback Machine for this one.

So it depends how you want to do it, I ended up doing it through tumbex

You cant just grab your whole blog in one go, so doing it through tumbex was easiest for me.

You just go over to tumbex and look up your blog, then go to the last page, and head over to the way back machine, then you enter each page one by one

for example I had around 20, so pahe 20 first, then 19, then 18 ect, just by editting the url I was using, you could go 1 2 3 but it's easier to know when to stop counting if you do it this way

You can do this directly from your blog, however if you do this on mobile, it's a bit finicky. You need to go to to the web version, turn on custom theme, and then edit theme. Look to the side and disable endless scrolling.

From here do the same thing as tumbex and enter that thing into the wayback machine, starting on the last page!!!

For an example, this is my archived blog! Do be wary as there's NSFW ads due to it being saved on Tumbex : https://web.archive.org/web/20260423095139/https://www.tumbex.com/fuckintheseclowntwinksa3rdtime.tumblr/posts

Another really good way to save or archive specific posts is by using the browser feature HTML text. This allows you to copy entire tumble posts, including images, however you can only save posts one by one.

I personally use this for my intro, as it means I don't need to change shit.

Just open the URL of the post up on browser, and edit it, then go to settings, rich text, and pick HTML and copy it all.

Next time you want to use and copy the post you do the same thing in reverse, by pasting the HTML into the HTML text, and then changing it back to reverse text, hey presto you got your post back.

Another great option to prevent yourself from specifically losing followers is to build up a recognisable blog you can recreate over and over again.

You know it's me when you see me! I have a similar user name every time, a similar blog theme, and the exact same intro! Also my general personality probably bloody helps with that, I talk in a very specific way, that one isn't intentional but you could definitely do something similar

A very good way to do this is save your theme, your graphics, your colours, screenshot it for later.

You can also tell your followers what your next blog name will be! I've seen this done with external links nd shit! I'm currently using Pronouns.cc, but you could use Google Docs, Rentry, Carrd : Whatever works for you!

This way if you ever do get shot point blank, people will know where to look to findcha! Here's where you can find me if I ever fuckin die !

You can also create a new blog in advanced! Prepare by having one with a chosen username, a premade email and your theme already copied across!

I have ironically the opposite of this, a blog I don't use, but that I have my theme and intro on, so I can copy it across all directly from that blog!

It makes getting termed way less of a struggle and a much more chilled experience !

Lastly, some things that will actually prevent the termination itself is going into settings and turning off visibility, all of it off, that way Antis are less likely to find you

These are my personal visibility settings, the one ive left on is as you still want some radqueers to find you, or else you'll be rather lonely on this site

I also reccomend looking into what got you banned, did tumblr say in yer email? was it for a specific reason? Me personally I kept getting banned for discussing S 3 lf H 4 rm, specifically sl 1 tting, in a consentual kink context, so I had to pull back my horny on such, and keep it a little more under wraps.

Personally I reccomend if you do get banned often, discussing violent topics may be a no go for a while!

Lastly AND MOST IMPORTANTLY DONT YOU DAREEEEEE DAREEEEEEEEEEEE EVER DAREEEEEE let this scare you out of discussing radqueer topics, being radqueer, being yourself, ect, GETTING T-WORDED IS A POWER MOVE, GET UP GET UP GET UP, GET UP BACK ON THIS DAMN BROKEN WEBSITE AND YELL YOUR TRUTH SOLDIER, THIS IS A BATTLE FIELD, DO YOU THINK JUST BECAUSE YOU WERE HIT ONCE MEANS YOU CAN JUST LAY ON THE GROUND AND DIE, NO, YOU NEED TO GET UP AND KEEP FIGHTING.

Please 💚 We need you out here, being radqueer is a form of protest, I'm serious, the less of us there are, the weaker the whole community is, so please, don't leave just because you lost your blog, there's still a place for you here.

Feel free to reblog if you have any suggestions too! Or comment if you have anything you want me to add :)

it's called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT)

don't believe me?

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2020-16775-009

https://reachlink.com/advice/psychotherapy/understanding-paraphilia-exploring-sexual-diversity-with-empathy/#:~:text=Acceptance%20and%20commitment%20therapy%20(ACT),while%20working%20through%20internalized%20stigma.

being anti-self expression for harmful (and nonharmful) paraphilias is quite literally anti-recovery.