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Hello! Welcome to my blog.
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My name is Sebastian! I'm an 18 year old student from the U.S who uses he/she/they pronouns. My full bio, flags, and other identities can be found over here (link).
I mainly post/reblog: Creative media, politics/opinions, queerness, alterhumanity, neurodivergency/disability, and things I find enjoyable. (Basically, this blog is just a giant jumble of me with no real theme!)
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"Why is your oc fat" grabs you and attaches wheels to ypu and uses you as a skateboard and does a few sick tricks and crashes and gets back on and does some more sick tricks and then lands and breaks you in twain and walks away
in order to unlearn racism u have to be willing to accept that u are racist. itās not a bad thing to want to change for the better. itās not a bad thing to say hey, the way iāve been acting is racist and i donāt want to be racist anymore. when people of color are telling u ways in which u have been racist, itās actually not cool to brush it off and say, well i didnāt mean it that way.. u actually have to make an effort to stop doing those things if u want to be able to actually say ur anti-racist. u canāt just say ur not racist because u donāt wanna be seen as racist. thatās not how unlearning racism works.
āum iām actually a good person so calling me racist couldnāt possibly be true. ur just attacking me!ā see how the racism is literally right there? see how ur just seconds away from calling me an angry black girl?
Whether this was a mass report until OP got auto-modded or a racist mod terminating OP with prejudice, any Black person who speaks up on racism instead of just grinning and bearing it still risks getting nuked from fucking orbit in this shithole.
Take what OP said to heart and do away with your white fragility.
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I donāt think we ought to normalize or justify bullying as a means to keep people from being annoying ā a sentiment that in and of itself could make for a whole articleās worth of conversation ā but I do think we should make a habit of politely but directly telling people āhey I didnāt like thatā, āthat wasnāt funnyā, āyou are mistakenā, and the like if itās called for, and more importantly, you should be able to take a āthat wasnāt funnyā for instance without taking it personally, because protecting a polite harmony where no one can criticize each other, not even politely, is also really, really bad.
Most cop thing I've ever read. what the fuck are you talking about. The posts you're looking for might be on this website but we won't show them to you???
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A headmate who is responsible for daily functioning/life, while simultaneously being disconnected from the system's trauma & lacking a complete sense of self/identity. Iotaself headmates may also be avoidant, feel guilty and/or hollow, and experience heavy dissociation.
Thetaself
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A headmate who is "stuck in time" or otherwise defined by one of more traumatic experiences. A thetaself headmate will typically be heavily reactive to triggers and possess significant trauma responses.
Kappaself
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A headmate who is a mix of both iotaself and thetaself, however that may present.
Self indulgent as hell. OP is a traumaendo system that does not identify as either disordered or nondisordered. Anti-endos are blocked on sight, though anyone may use our terms. Please credit when reposting, especially when uploading to wiki sites or similar.
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Reasoning behind coining and additional information below the cut!
I'm coining these terms, and iotaself in particular, because I heavily resonated with the definition of "Apparently Normal Part," but largely reject the way larger theory depersonalizes headmates & systems as whole, the way the term uses the word "normal", and largely just the whole psychiatric approach to plurality. Basically, I wanted to describe myself accurately, with one term and not half a dozen, while not using a psychiatric/medical term. These are largely replacement terms, though they are not 1-to-1 and I am not claiming they are.
I'm coining thetaself & kappaself simply to complete the set of ANP, EP, and MP for those who might want to use it, despite myselves not identifying with those two. I understand that thetaself is very similar to a trauma holder, but it is explicitly a sister term to iotaself and kappaself and is a replacement for EP specifically.
The names are largely arbitrary, I couldn't come up with name so I yoinked some Greek letters and slapped -self on the end of them. Very professional (/sarcasm with humorous intent). Flags, also arbitrary, are black/white gray templates I stuck into Canva and put through filters. Also very professional (/sarcasm with humorous intent)!
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"Grace doesnt have enough food on the jorney to Erid" yeah but Rocky does. Rocky has plenty, in fact, Rocky had enough food for 23 eridians for a bit over 30 years (because they were also expected to make the jorney back) Rocky has so much food, and he cant give any to grace because it will kill him. Every meal he makes he can hear Grace's body slowly collapsing in on itself from hunger. Rocky has to sit there, with way more than enough food for 2 and still watch his best friend starve to death.
The reason why so many of y'all's feminism sucks is because you still believe deep down in your hearts that there are only two kinds of people in the world: precious, ethereal, fragile dollthings called "women", and violent, lustful, rage-fueled apes called "men". Until you throw that idea away, 3rd-grade-tier "girls rule boys drool, girls are princesses and boys are stinky :(" is as feminist as we'll ever get-- and I hope it's obvious that that's lightyears away from the bare minimum of where we need to be.
I don't know how I'm supposed to explain to ostensibly trans-friendly feminists that "women are beautiful soft things made of glass, men are obsessed with violence and sex" is exactly what the patriarchy wants you to believe. Patriarchy wants you to believe that being a woman and/or having a vagina (patriarchy generally believes those two things are synonymous) makes one shatter on impact with reality. It makes you easier to control if you are scared shitless of the other half of the population, and it makes you more compliant with your lot in life if you believe it is in the nature of the other half of the population to rape and kill rather than realise those were choices those individual rapists and murderers made. There is no way to make gender essentialism progressive and feminist, because it is one of patriarchy's tools of subjugation. Stop trying to make it progressive.
And I can scream all of that from the rooftops over and over again, and what I hear in reply is "Trans men really are men because no woman would ever decide to become an inherently evil repugnant rapist ape", and "You're so right. Trans women are women because they too are pretty delicate little objects I can fuck", and "You're non-binary? So are you fucktoy non-binary or sexpest non-binary?", and my patience runs ever thinner.
The medical framework of the mind is not the only legitimate framework for self-understanding. People have the right to understand themselves outside of Western psychiatry's purview even in cases where a psychiatric diagnosis is potentially relevant. Yes, that includes that situation.
Western psychiatry is not a perfect institution. While it does benefit some people, it has a lot of systemic problems embedded within it. Diagnoses often uphold social norms, which isn't always a good thing- consider how racism, sexism, etc. interact with the mental health system, as well as how Western psychiatry is often used as justification to strip basic rights from people because they don't fit those norms well enough.
It's one thing to seek support and receive what you were looking for. Great. I'm glad that you had a good experience. It's another issue entirely when "support" is pushed at the cost of someone's autonomy, independence, or freedom- when support is given like a threat, not an aid.
The concept of mental health is neither absolute nor universal. One person's healthy life is another's living nightmare. Applying your ideas of health to someone else may not actually help them.
You do not have the right to decide for someone else whether their experiences are beneficial for them. You have the right to negotiate a different way of interacting with those experiences if needed (or even to leave someone over it), but that's not the same as deciding that actually, someone is Very Sick and needs to be medicated or sent to therapy whether they want it or not.
Have whatever opinion you want about someone else's mental health, but remember that it's your opinion based on your own life experiences and frameworks, not objective reality. They may see their own experiences very differently from you.
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Plurality is a wider umbrella than just DID/OSDD. Non-medical experiences of plurality exist. Some of these experiences are spiritual or cultural: humanity has a long history of culturally-sanctioned possession and mediumship experiences, for example. Some are not.
Even within the medical framework, diagnoses are not permanent or absolute structures. Their definitions have changed many times over the years, and they continue to change in the present. The DSM is not a brain bible. DID was MPD was hysterical neurosis. Are any of these things absolute?
Something not appearing in the DSM or ICD does not mean that the experience does not exist. It just means that it's not a psychiatric diagnosis that exists in those manuals. Psychiatric diagnoses are not the arbiters of what's possible for someone's mind; they're insurance codes and treatment classifications aimed at cases where significant distress is present.
People have the right to define their own experiences in whatever ways work for them. Sometimes, that's understanding the contents of their head as belonging to more than one person. Sometimes it's getting spiritual about it. It might sound absolutely insane to you, but who decides what sanity is? Why do they have that power? Should they?
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And before you think that I'm only talking about dissociative and spiritual plurality here: I'm not. We get asks sometimes about "encouraging psychosis" that come off as dismissive at best, outright hostile at worst. I want to make something very clear:
Psychotic people have the right to self-define just like non-psychotic people.
You do not get to choose psychotic people's identities for them. You do not get to decide how they should interact with themselves or understand their experiences. You do not get to decide what makes their life easier or harder for them to live. And you absolutely do not get to decide whether they should be pushed into a more "normal" way of understanding themselves.
You do not get to decide whether something is "encouraging psychosis" for someone else.
Maybe that means that some psychotic people use the plural framework because of their psychosis. Maybe it means that some people are both plural and psychotic separately. Maybe their plurality and psychosis interact with each other. Are they hurting you personally? Has the person specifically asked you to reality check them or try to change how they see themselves? Has the person expressed that these experiences are a problem for them? No? Then leave them alone.
You are absolutely allowed to have a conversation with someone if their actions are harming you directly, but if it's not hurting you, then let the person decide for themselves how they want to handle it. Maybe that's medication or avoiding the topic. Maybe it isn't. Let them decide that for themselves.
Living in a weird version of reality does not make someone less of a person.
āThe LEGO Movie was my favorite movie of 2014, but it strikes me that the main character was male, because I feel like in our current culture, he HAD to be. The whole point of Emmett is that heās the most boring average person in the world. Itās impossible to imagine a female character playing that role, because according to our pop culture, if sheās female sheās already SOMEthing, because sheās not male. The baseline is male. The average person is male. You can see this all over but itās weirdly prevalent in childrenās entertainment. Why are almost all of the muppets dudes, except for Miss Piggy, whoās a parody of femininity? Why do all of the Despicable Me minions, genderless blobs, have boy names? I love the story (which I read on Wikipedia) that when the director of The Brave Little Toaster cast a woman to play the toaster, one of the guys on the crew was so mad he stormed out of the room. Because he thought the toaster was a man. A TOASTER. The character is a toaster. I try to think about that when writing new charactersā is there anything inherently gendered about what this character is doing? Or is it a toaster?ā
ā Bojack Horseman creator Raphael Bob-Waksberg commenting on how weird gendered defaults in entertainment are, and why we should think twice about them. Excerpted from this longer original post.
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this post's hypothetical by itself is already ridiculous but the thing that gets me is how the wording implies two very funny things that become funnier in tandem
1. "Accidentally, the pitcher tosses a Christian baby" means this is a mistake on the pitcher's part. i imagine the pitcher is breastfeeding on the field and they pitch and they look down at their hands and they see the ball still in the glove and they go "fuck"
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Also another thing that bothers me about hetero culture is that because wanting children is seen as the only correct way of being, that means that when someone who has never before wanted children suddenly changes their mind and dives head-first into parenthood, it's not seen as a sudden personality change and reckless behavior, which is a red flag that they might be having a mental health crisis. People just think "oh thank god, they've finally fixed themselves" even when someone is very noticeably going through some sort of personal crisis, like couples who have a kid after getting to the brink of divorce in hopes of fixing their relationship (which ofc always ends well for both them and the kid s/) or if your trans friend gets together with a new partner and immediately gets pregnant, quits their job and detransitions. Nobody will even ask them if they're ok.
There's no socially acceptable way to say "I noticed that you've suddenly started following the default heteronormative social script to a T in a way that you always said would be your worst nightmare, what's going on?".
Which is disturbing especially since reproductive coercison is one of the most common ways that ipv can manifest. Getting your victim pregnant is a great way to control them.
But if your friend who always loved their career and hated the idea of that kind of life suddenly stops talking to you and all their queer friends and announces that they have quit their job and will be moving to the suburbs to raise children with a man they met 1 month ago, you're expected to act like you're happy for them, solely because that's the heterosexual default life path ā¢ļø and is assumed to always be the right for everyone and cannot be questioned.
Kind of how people are less likely to notice that a kid is being abused at home if they're quiet, well-behaved, never break a rule and don't act out (because they've too afraid to).
Signs of abuse that get read as good behavior usually go unnoticed.
this post has a message that is overall true and is something that a lot of autistic people (which iām assuming is the target audience since op uses the term infodumping specifically) could benefit from learning; that conversation is a two-way street and letting other people get a word in, and showing interest in their perspectives is helpful for social interaction.
however, i canāt get over how incredibly condescending, judgmental, and ableist the phrasing is, and ā espcially considering the wording does read as if it specifically is aimed at autistic people who quite literally cannot help how their social cognition naturally functions ā how that is completely unhelpful to fucking everyone. calling a behaviour that is literally inherent to many autistic peopleās autistic traits āverbal masturbationā is disgusting bully behaviour, actually. not to mention that it reinforces extremly outdated psychiatric understandings of what autism fundamentally is (i.e. a disorder of extreme solipsism).
i also think that theyāre approaching this from an incredibly bad faith angle in general, because it actually isnāt true that peopleās bad reactions to autistic socialization is always just because weāre such useless worthless egocentric disableds who donāt care about anyone else. itās actually very, very often because people are ableist and it doesnāt matter how much we try our best to engage in ānormalā conversation because weāre perceived as fucking freaks. hope that helps.
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