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Hey, your f/o doesn't think less of you because you can't work because of your disability. They don't think you're lazy or a mooch because you use government assistance like SSI or LCWRA. They don't expect you to "compensate" for your time at home while they're at work by doing errands and chores ; they know you're disabled and don't have to be productive to be worthwhile as a person. Your validity isn't measure by your capital output and they're a firm believer in that.

Never feel ashamed about not working because your f/o surely isn't. They're proud of you for resting and taking care of yourself. That's all they could ever ask of you.

me:

You got a traumatized f/o?

Great, imagine them having a nightmare about it so horrible they wake up on the brink of tears next to you, shaking, eyes wide, breathing heavy, but as soon as they feel you next to them, they soothe like nothing was ever wrong.

As soon as they hear your voice, as soon as they feel your hands, as soon as they know you're there, they know they're safe.

but then with disabled people, there are a lot of objective truths to the discrimination we face. people with IDs/LDs do fall behind and struggle with certain concepts. physically disabled people are often weaker and less capable of performing demanding tasks than able bodied people. many of us with mental illnesses are more reckless and less responsible. a lot of us are dependent on others and do not contribute much "worth".

and guess what? disabled people still deserve a place in the world. disabled people still deserve the supports they need. because they are people, and that should be enough to support them and believe they deserve a place at the table.

if your only rebuttal against discrimination is its objective inaccuracies, you are meeting bigots where they are at. you are validating the very concept that if and when people are truly incapable of being equal to the majority, that means they are worth less. this causes some leftists to then try to deny the objective realities of disabled people and/or become ableist themselves.

Reminder: Your fos won't judge you for your income, your ability to make income, or if you're going through financial struggles.

This lesbian visibility week consider going to your lesbian selfship mutuals and letting them know how much of a positive impact they are to their community and how much their f/os love them!

Lesbian selfshippers are often overlooked and it's important to remind them they're an integral part of the community 🩷🤍🧡