This is a letter Iâll never send to a friend who betrayed me, and Iâm putting it here bc I think itâll give me closure, so u can go ahead and scroll past this.
[REDACTED],
This is from [REDACTED] regarding what you did (the exigence is that you just approached my friend and said that you did nothing), since you have made it clear that you do not believe you have done anything wrong, and that I am being irrational.
Below is a list of direct actions you took which caused me harm.
- You repeated refused to tell [REDACTED; Authority figures] about the incidents you witnessed after I literally begged you to, and you were aware that some of them were so bad that you couldnât put it in writing.
- You called my mother and screamed at her for telling your mother that we would likely no longer be friends if you continued your complicit behavior.
- You basically yelled at me for attempting to inform [REDACTED; senderâs friend & receiverâs GF] about what I actually said on [REDACTED; performance], and I had to leave the situation because of that.
- You had a conversation with [REDACTED; a liar] and believed what he said about me, then said that I was lying when I said that they werenât true when they didnât fit my character at all, then told me that my family must have said and done it instead, refusing to trust me when I had proof of character and [REDACTED; the liar] had nothing.
- You literally ran away from me at [REDACTED, different performance] after telling me that you would watch my performance the day before when I told you that I knew nobody else would come due to the rumors, and you were my best friend (this being the reason that I went no contact to begin with), then proceeded to act like it had not happened.
- You told your mother to stop trying to help me while I and my sister were actively being bullied by multiple people because you wanted to be cast.
You made it very clear over and over again that you valued the people who were lying about me over me, regardless of your intent. If you do not believe any of these events happened, I can give you the date and time
I never reached out to be friends again, and I explicitly stated that was not the intent of the message, and I do not appreciate how you twisted my words, even if you believed that was my intention. I do not want to lose good friends again, and I wanted to know what I actually did wrong so that I am able to not do that to someone else, but what has been done is done, and I do not have any intention of becoming even associates again.
I also do not appreciate that you implied to my friend that I did not care, when I was literally begging you to tell somebody because I was having panic attacks, was being bullied, and had to transfer out of multiple classes. Of course, this is an implication and could have been misread, and if this is not what you were intending, then disregard the above.
You are also correct that in a lot of instances, you didnât do anything, and that was exactly the problem. You saw that I was hurting, and instead of helping, you allowed it to continue. You did not reach out to me for the truth once, only to tell me that I was either lying or wrong and that I did things I did not. You acted not in the manner of a friend, but rather a stranger, and I treated you as such. Your neutrality is your worst offense by far (though calling my mother came close).
I understand that you may feel that you havenât done anything wrong because you went along with not contact me when I requested you not to, which I commend you for. But your compliance does not disregard what you have done nor the impact of your inaction.
I do not care to remain no contact anymore, because the intent to initiate it was so that you would not hurt me further and I would be able to comfortably come to the conclusion that we are not, will never be, and likely never were, friends. I have reached that conclusion. Feel free to do whatever you want or be whoever you want to be, but please do not hold me responsible for your actions nor your consequences.
Sincerely,
[REDACTED]
