Reasons why I don't debate/argue with people on Tumblr.

Tumblr stopped being an activism space 3 years ago. Now, it is just a hobby for me. It is the equivalent of being on Instagram or even Pinterest.

Not to be all ad hominem but I assume most people on this website are non-black. Debating non-black (especially white) people online for free is not something I want to do in my spare time.

I am impatient so I need people to be on a certain intellectual level before engaging with them. If you are still learning ABCs (so to speak), I cannot do the hand holding and spoon feeding. I already do that in my professional career so my patience is thin.

I can't actually be sure if I am talking to a mature and sane adult or a maladjusted person with too much access to the Internet. If you push too hard or use harsh words, next thing you know, someone is claiming to be an underage autistic double amputee and accusing you of bullying them. And then others jump on that bandwagon and call you a bully at best, child abuser at worst.

Radical feminists are expected to turn the other cheek when being insulted and I am not going to do that. I will most likely curse people out regardless of the age/disability status/whatever they put in their profile.

It is very difficult to determine if a person has a willingness to learn/change or if they are just "own" you. Debating people who are just trying to own you (offline or online) is a waste of your time and mental strength.

I think voice inflections are very important for communication. With text, it is very easy to misunderstand what a person is trying to say because you can't hear their voice.

I was raised Christian and many of family members are tongue speaking Christians so I know first hand that is practically impossible to get people to change their minds and let go of harmful ideologies. I decided to give up Christianity on my own. I came to my own conclusions based on the available evidence. Nobody had to convince me to give up Christianity. Nobody convinced me to become a radical feminist either. I just read reports, watched documentaries and read stats and realised that male violence (physical, domestic, economic, reproductive, etc) against women & girls is omnipresent.

From my personal observations, trying to convince people to change their minds causes them to double down on their beliefs and more often than not because it is seen as an attack against them as people rather than an attack against their ideology. I believe trying to convince people to change their minds might actually be slowing down their "awakening".

There are many radical feminists on Tumblr who still treat Tumblr as a consciousness raising platform and they are open and patient enough to deal with all that comes with that. I am not one of them so don't expect me to act like one.

To be mean, a lot of women online and real life seem to believe that them participating in the baddies aesthetics and rituals make them a baddie and it is so perplexing. Just because you wear the uniform does not make you a student of the school.

I have encountered several women who genuinely believe that getting their nails and lashes done, makes them more beautiful than women do not. And many of them are not shy about verbalising this superiority, it is the most astounding and frankly funny phenomenon I have encountered among women.

Well, I don't know, what does blackpilled actually mean? I agree with many opinions and views of several self proclaimed blackpilled women. Some of them definitely go over board but that doesn't mean everything blackpillers say is rubbish and even invaluable. I agree with what I agree with regardless of who is saying it.

What I know I am though, is a woman who understands that behavioural change is self motivated so trying to get other women to change their values and behaviours is a waste of time. My advice to women is to make a lot of money (be an unapologetic capitalist), eat a healthy diet and work out and ally with people (male or female) when there is a clear benefit for you. When the collaboration stops being beneficial, end it and move on to the next one. If you truly want to help other women, set an example to show them that a life without men is possible and even better and hopefully they get inspired, if not, shrug shoulders.

So far, all of the arguments I have seen against blackpillers has been a mix of tone arguments and ad hominems. Criticising them for using misogynistic words or accusing them of being edgy teenagers or male (this is a big one) and what not but, I haven't seen anyone debunk the logic of blackpill ideology.

They also get accused of being psyops (whether CIA or Russian is still unclear 🤣😂). The conspiracy thinking that blackpillers are psyops to bring down radical feminism is so comical to me. With the way, some of you are talking, you would think radblr was at the cusp of overthrowing the Taliban or securing federal abortion rights in the USA or something before the blackpillers came and sowed dissent. Like common.

Radblr has always had different opinions or anybody else remember the annual seperatists discourse which triggers the lesphobia in many blogs. Let us not forget the several doxxing cases that happened before blackpillers became a thing. If an alleged group of disgruntled teenagers can pose a risk to your movement, that shows the movement wasn't strong to begin with.

Radblr is a good consciousness raising tool, that is all it can ever do because that is the limit of all social media activism.

Who is a man (according to radblr)?

Let me start by saying radfems accusing people with different and maybe opposing views of being male is not a new thing. However, I guess the accusations are becoming more frequent now especially against self proclaimed blackpillers.

My thing is how do they determine who is male. What are the determining factors? Is it the opinions, the speech pattern? What exactly? Are pro fellatio activists on radblr getting accused of being male or just blackpillers? Those pro fellatio blogs are also spreading pro male propaganda so where are their male accusations?

From my observation, I noticed the criteria is: you said something I don't like or agree with so therefore you are male.

One thing about the accusation of being male, it is very amusing how a lot of people becomes experienced forensic linguists when it comes to analysing blackpillers to determine their sex. I didn't know we had so many professional forensic linguists on here 😳 😅

The current human hair industry is not supplied by ethically donated human hair because there isn't enough of that to go around and when demand greatly exceeds supply, nefarious business practices spring up. Best case scenario hair is gotten from poor individuals (mostly women) who reluctantly gives up their hair to meet their needs, worse case scenario hair is gotten from individuals (mostly women) with threats of violence or violence who maybe even trafficked.

I know some narrow minded and frankly callus black women would reply with "Black women are not the saviours of the world" and that is true but I do not know how asking people not to contribute to the oppression and exploitation of people is asking them to be saviours of the world. Human hair extensions are not a need plus it isn't even close to asking people to start using reusable sanitary pads and straws.

The way many black women react as if someone is asking them to give up their first child when the topic of human hair extensions comes up is embarrassing. Some of the liberal ones start using progressive language to justify exploiting women.

The pedelisation and idolisation of Ciara's and Russell Wilson's marriage is actually stupid and frankly embarrassing.

Firstly, you do not know these people, you do not live with them so why on earth black women as a group exalt this relationship as healthy is baffling. Yes, Russell Wilson may be a better man than Future but that doesn't mean he is a good partner.

I get that Ciara getting married as a single mother feels like a win in the era of single mother bashing content but common, let us be adults, better than your ex does not mean good plus men are men and they are going to men.

Secondly, Ciara's pregnancies are worrying. I feel like Russell is hitting back at all the comments challenging his masculinity by getting Ciara pregnant almost annually. I don't trust men who have no qualms impregnating a woman willy nilly. I also think he is tying her down and making it difficult for her to ever leave him should she get tired.

Lastly, aren't they Christians? Do you guys seriously trust a Christian couple to be in a healthy relationship? I don't.

In conclusion, black women need to stop being emotionally invested in the romantic relationships of strangers. They are a beautiful couple but you do not know the true state of their relationship.

Sometimes, it is not even the men that are pressuring the women for sex. The women are initiating sex when they are not turned on because of the anxiety of "losing a good one". They also do more domestic labour because they are anxious about losing the man.

Most women do not know what justice and fairness in relationships looks like and for those who know what it looks like, they don't demand too for it because it know it could be worse so they don't want to push the "good men" away.

I said it before in another post, I do not believe women who claim to be in healthy and happy relationships because

They are outright lying for various reasons

Globally, there are people who believe women are inherently too mercurial and maybe even too stupid for leadership positions and these female gurus, well meaning they be, are lending support to that idea.