i super do not have life figured out LOL, it's age old wisdom that you do not let someone's social media presence be the comparison point by which you compare your own life. if i opened up about all of the shit i have messed up in just the past year or two alone that i am still reaping the consequences of it would paint a very different picture. things are getting better in a lot of key ways and i'd definitely say i am more in tune with myself and with my social circle than i have been in years prior, and that's going a long way, but believe me the work never stops. and that's fine, that's just how it is. you can still be okay with yourself in that zone. most people are in that zone, anyone who claims they have everything figured out are largely mistaken or intentionally misleading you.