The Usual Suspects

my weekend:

Then Graeber shared another story from the group - once there was a member of the group who got on everyone’s nerves by asking the hunters for all of their best cuts of meat every time they returned with their haul. So one day the hunters invited him along on a seal hunting trip and then abandoned him on a raft in the Arctic ocean to die of exposure.

Social ostracism has existed before capitalism and it will outlive capitalism. Sometimes capitalism has even gone against social ostracism, like the famous example of the Sears and Roebuck magazine - the massive company could offer uniform products with uniform prices, which was a godsend for rural Black people because they could finally buy things for once in their lives without ludicrous markups from the local shopkeepers in their community!

youth liberation is what helps children get the medical support they need, even if their parents are neglectful.

youth liberation educates the child so that the child has the necessary language to speak on their own behalf, as an agent of themselves with autonomy over themselves.

youth liberation demands we treat all children as what they are: future adults, who at all times have the right to autonomy over their body, and a right to a life free from abuse and exploitation. it would deny parents the ability to force (in the case of intersex "correction" surgeries) or deny medical care, deny them the ability to isolate and control their children through regulated forms of education like in homeschooling, and would instead give that power to the child and the child alone.

youth liberation is not only about preventing abuse before it happens, by demanding that children are treated with respect and as full agents over themselves, it is also about creating a supportive society that allows children to escape abusive situations to a community-based safe space.

everyone trying to argue youth lib is about "letting pedophiles hang out with children" are not only engaging in some of the most deliberate bad faith possible, they're purposefully ignoring the fact youth liberation would also protect and prevent child sexual abuse, which relies upon children being - to a certain extent - trapped, with no ability to leave the situation they're in themselves, at the hands of statistically family members, relatives, family friends, known babysitters, etc. children can only be trapped if they have nowhere else to go.

csa also relies on poor sex education - in fact, every single assault i faced was due to me not having been taught that what i experienced was assault at all. i was raised in an abusive home, and i came to earnestly believe that a relationship with a man necessitated my allowing him to use my body however he wanted, because that's what i saw growing up. my parents were poor educators, only giving us books they purchased about sex education for kids for us to read alone.

My rapist was nonbinary and bi. My deeply Lutheran grandma was the first person to fully accept me as trans in my primarily liberal athiestic/agnostic family. Years ago my social life was ruined by another trans masculine person who intentionally destroyed all of my close friendships. One of my current closest friends is a cishet guy who has a friend group that is almost entirely populated of queer people because a bunch of his friends have come out around him since high school.

Does the 'wife' have the authority to buy clothes without their husband's approval? No.

Does the 'wife' have the ability to get a job/bank account without their husband's approval? No.

Can the 'wife' have a level of freedom on where they go and who with, that they do not have to report to their husband? No.

Laws forbidding the 'wife' from doing anything 'deviant' aren't particularly necessary.

This is why anti-gay man, anti-'male crossdressing' laws almost always come first, and anti-lesbian doesn't always even happen.

so, in some patriarchal ideologies, gender nonconformity from "men" is seen as a far worse transgression bc they see "men" as being capable of rational thought and understanding why their actions are "wrong", whereas 'those silly little women aren't able to understand why wearing pants (as a woman) is wrong bc women can't understand society and higher thought at all'. not all patriarchal societies feel this way & there's a lot of variation even within societies re: how misogyny presents itself, but the idea that it is more of an immoral action for a "man" to dress as a woman vs a "woman" dress as a man is, sometimes, rooted in the idea that they have more agency and therefore are making more of a deliberate action to be transgressive. if that makes sense.

It was not to prevent the spread of drugs, it was to funnel Black people into prison and permanently curtail voting rights, to keep a provisional Jim Crow that could deflect criticism long enough to get the average white moderate to accept it, and to make the average white liberal’s dreams of “reform” still include the same framework.