I'm so tired of people feminizing Fingon in Russingon. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing bad in feminine men (we love them), BUT. In this very context, where Fingon generally is mostly associated with Russingon, aka gay romance, it just seems so bad and unnecessary.
I feel like Findekano often gets the Obi-Wan treatment, where just because he is paired with a literal war criminal, he becomes the polite and mild one. And that is so crazy because Fingon literally did some of the most insane shit any of the House of Fingolfin members did. He crossed the Helcaraxë, he joined the FIRST kinslaying. He went through literal pits of hell to get the son of Feanor back to his side. He was the first one to figt Glaurung. He died fighting Gothmog and several other Balrogs. And whether or not you ship Russingon, most of those actions can be associated with Maitimo. And let me just add that Maedhros was the one to call him The Valiant!! He acknowledged Findekano's willingness to commit to the deed, he knew Finno was much more of a warrior than him. And yet I feel like Findekano is often portrayed as the one to be the erudite, whereas Maedhros is made to be the sword, when it's clearly Fingon's dominion. Maitimo was always about words. I've always wondered what kind of activity/craftsmanship I would associate with him, since almost all the other feanorians have one, and I think what fits the most is rhetoric. Just take a look at the way he handles things. Where Fingon crosses the sea, Maitmo wants to persuade Feanor to send the ship back for him. Where Fingon goes to hell for him, Maitimo gives the crown away, once again showing his real face through words and diplomacy. Fingon was the one to be called The Valiant, he was a fighter first and foremost. I believe his nature changed after becoming the High King, but even so, the actions he took show us that even after that he was willing to take a lot of risks, and his victories often came from sheer luck as well as the trust he held in both his people and his love.
It's also worth pointing out that Fingon was significantly less burdened than Mae, he was much more reckless and free in his love for Maedhros. I feel like their relationship was very even when they were in Valinor, but after the Oath and Thangorodrim, Mae realized he could not go the lengths for their relationship that Fingon did. People say for Maedhros the oath and his family came first. I don't think it's necessarily true. I think he loved Fingon much more than we give him credit for. It's just that no matter how much he valued their love, he couldn't give in to it fully because of the Oath. And I feel like Fingon was aware of that, but it was not enough to stop him from loving Maedhros anyway.
In Russingon, Maedhros is the one who needed Fingon's guidance much more than it went the other way around. After Nirnaeth Arnoediad we see major change in the way he acts. Where Fingon was mostly reckless with the love he held for Maitimo, Maedhros was reckless only when it came to his brothers and fullfilling the oath. When Findekano was alive Maitimo was a great diplmat, he was keeping his brothers in check. With Findekano around he doubted his judgement meaningly less, than when he no longer had him by his side. It says a lot that only after Fingon's passing the two other kinslayings happend.
Of course it's okay to have your own take on this ship, however I just wanted to point out that there seems to be a lot of misunderstanding about who Fingon truly was in it. He wasn't simply this gentle and comforting soul to Maedhros' darkness. It was his unbreakable loyalty and resilience that kept this relationship going. And I also think the slight feminization might come from the obvious thing that he was much shorter than Maedhros (who was unnaturally tall), and it fits people's expectations of couple dynamics, where the bigger one takes the more dominant and masculine role, while the other automatically takes the more feminine side. And that's okay, but like. Don't forget they are not even human. And they are in an incest relationship. And most importantly, they are gay as fuck, it's not gonna to be a typical heterosexual-like dynamic.
