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i do not trust the radqueer community anymore.
i have seen way too little posts about the permamonika situation, and while i haven't been on tumblr that much myself, I'm disturbed by how it seems like the only people speaking up about the situation are the people involved. People had more energy when it came to people talking about irpai's csem, but when it comes to permamonika, everyone is suddenly silent.
where is that energy? where is the drive to protect the victims? the drive to run the abusers off the platform? the drive to keep people safe and away from groomers and predators? why do people only care when something as major as CSEM is involved? do we as a community just not care about victims unless their experiences and behaviors are made with cookie cutters?
i've seen everyone i looked up to leaving this community because of how little people are speaking up about this, and it hurts to say, but i want to as well. calling myself radqueer doesn't feel as inclusive and welcoming as i thought it did. what if something happens to me? what if i get groomed and exploited or even raped and/or assaulted by someone in the community?
would anyone help? would anyone care?
I will stay, not because I feel safe, but because the "radqueer" community is all that I have. i won't say what I've seen other saying; that antis were right, that everyone is a cookie cutter abuse apologist, or things of that nature. but i will say that i am afraid of what the community has become. we went from making silly terms and protecting each other, to covering up abuse and uplifting predators. we've become the very cult mentality antis accuse us of having, and im scared. i didn't want another cult, i wanted a community of safety. but i don't see that here.
but you're all ive got. so for now, ill stay.
im sorry I didn't do more to help with the situation. Im sorry I didn't use my platform and my voice, even if i am a small account. Im sorry I wssnt helping as much as I should've. But I will now, even if its over, because people deserve to know. I'll miss everyone that left, I'll hold you all in my hearts and hope you find happiness somewhere else.
i hope this community can improve, before its too late. because it doesn't feel radqueer anymore. it feels like another cult.
my original pinned post, if you cared enough to read this far.
