non-binary rights babey!

I’m gonna try to explain my point through examples.

Ex 1: toddler screaming and crying in the walmart

Punishment: I’m going to spank you or embarrass you or yell at you! Shut up! I’ll give you something to cry about!

Discipline: stop doing what you’re doing because it isn’t productive and it disturbs others as well as increasing your own upsetnes. I’m going to take you out of the environment that’s upsetting you until you’re calm and we can identify what upset you together so I can explain to you why it’s like that/help you find ways to productively express upsetness as you grow.

Ex 2: your teen is failing, like, all their classes

Punishment: you’re grounded! You’re not allowed to go out with your friends or play games or do anything fun or enjoyable until your work is satisfactory!

Discipline: it’s important to do well in school. You need to communicate with me when you are struggling so I can help you. You also need to learn to manage fun stuff and work as that’s an important life skill in adulthood. I’m going to monitor your work more closely so I can help you find that balance. And if this is a deeper mental or emotional issue, we can seek help for you together.

Here’s a link:

https://4ocean.com/pages/octopus 

There’s different colors representing different sea creatures ❤️🌊 

Actually, the claim that HRT doesn’t do much after puberty is a myth.  I started when I was 31 years old and now I’m 35. =)  

It’s never too late.

The top two pictures are from 2011, age 32. The bottom three are from this yeah, 2016, age 37, and (almost) 2 years on hrt. Hrt is magic.

Never.

i drew a boy

summertime binding.

binding in the summer (and in general) sucks ass. here’s some general knowledge and tips how to make your summer life easier

summer = t shirts = wanting to bind for longer because you can’t wear layers

be aware of how long you have binded today. the 8 hour guideline is good for the rest of the year. chest compression is much more dangerous when you’re hot and heavy and out and about. make sure you take breaks and drink plenty of water

i cannot stress this enough. DO NOT DOUBLE/TRIPLE BIND OR USE ANYTHING OTHER THAN A GOOD BINDER. unless you want to pass out, damage your chest, fuck up your ribs, be in general pain, etc. be my guest. this is hypocritical for me to say because i used to double bind in the summer

binder ribs are a reality and i also cannot stress that enough. binding normally still might result in bruised/disfigured ribs. give your body a break when you really need to. dysphoria may be temporary but you have your physical body forever

make sure you wash your binders. they will smell like shit with hot garbage and will make your backne even worse. you don’t want to go around smelling in hot weather before you even started to sweat

make sure you wash your chest/back. even though it’ll be dysphoria inducing it’s important to keep your body clean. all that sweat and bacteria may lead to infections if there’s open skin (including backne)

you stink and that’s just how it is

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swimming

before you go out swimming, make sure that your brand of binder is water/pool safe. i know that gc2b and underworks are swim approved. google is free

get a size up because it’ll shrink in water. don’t put it on if it’s wet or you’re wet because you’ll break the seams and it’s just not physically possible. taking off a wet binder sucks and should be considered as an olympic sport

be careful if you’re planning to go underwater in the deep end. compression already makes it harder to breathe; i don’t want you to go out like that

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general

if you have a big chest it’ll be very hard to get away in a white t shirt. sorry but you’ll just have to wait until after top surgery (if you want that)

if you have a big chest you may look very weird in a t shirt. it’ll stick out from the sides or look like a weird triangular prism, making it harder to pass. make sure your binder isn’t too big or too small so you look normal

get a skin colored binder to make wearing light colors easier

wear sunscreen. even if you have very dark skin, skin cancer is a huge reality

wearing a open short sleeve button down + t shirt combo helps mask your curves and any weirdness your chest is going through. know how to dress in general to make yourself pass better

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