love & light

I think I’ve always been the type that wanted to find a boyfriend, get married, have a family, etc. I just don’t feel that way anymore. I’m 22. I’m young. I remember getting hurt so bad by a man when he told me he just wasn’t looking for a girlfriend. I didn’t understand why, why wouldn’t you want that magical life where you’re always there for each other? Why wouldn’t you want me, someone who is so loyal and loving? Now I get it. I don’t want to be someone’s girlfriend. You don’t commit so you can find yourself first. 

You don’t love someone else when you can’t love yourself.

You don’t place all of your eggs in this basket when there are other baskets that might be sturdier. 

You don’t jump into a relationship with someone you hardly know because you never know what could end up happening.

You don’t love them first. You love yourself first. 

You find someone who respects the hell out of you. Until they do that, don’t date them. 

You find someone who also isn’t looking for a relationship? Respect it and get to know them anyway. 

Not looking for a relationship? Look for a relationship with yourself. 

There’s nothing wrong with falling in love when you’re not looking for a relationship, but don’t fall in love when you aren’t ready in your heart. 

Been hurt? Abused? Raped? HEAL yourself before you try to find another person. You will be so much more than a victim in your life.