Rosefaerie

Shelter doggo with a huge smile being adopted 

What Britney revealed in this trial did not shock me at all because this is the reality of many many people. This is the threat that hangs over people like me if we dont conform and burn out to please an arbitrary standard of normal and don't lie like hell to doctors.

At any moment if my mother felt like it, she could simply take my autonomy away legally because I can't live alone. If I didn't censure myself all of the time around certain people regarding neurodivergence, I could end up in a similar position because a doctor decided I was too crazy to have rights, and unlike Brittney, there is no mass movement for justice for us common people.

I want everyone to realize that what Britney has said is commonplace for people deemed 'too crazy to function' and disabled people in general. We are abused at startlingly high rates by our caregivers (parents, doctors, etc), society thinks that our rights should be taken away for our own good. I want people to extend the horror and desire to see change to the rest of us who arent high profile and use that horror to enact real change.

They may not fully realize they are doing it. You may be able to tell that they don’t know what they are trying to show you or why they are showing it to you. They may just have this urge, once they trust you and see that you are safe (and being a Safe Person is often rare) to reveal it to you, seeing how you react, because they are wanting—perhaps unconsciously—to have their hurt seen.

They don’t want you to freak out and be like “holy shit that’s horrible and awful are you okay are you traumatized?” They also don’t want you to simply laugh along with them, not really. Maybe the best thing is just a “That must have been terrifying,” or “Well, that was kind of messed up,” or “What kind of asshole would do that?” Don’t conceal the fact that it disturbs you, but don’t make a Huge Deal about it either.

Towels

Kitten Milk Replacer (kmr)

Baby kitten kibble (like with the teeny tiny kibbles like royal canin’s babycat formula)

Baby kitten soft food

Heating pads (kittens need SO MUCH HEAT)

Pine litter (baby kittens can’t use clumping litter because they try to eat it or it gets stuck to their bottoms and clumps up)

Unflavored pedialyte

little kitten pens (like the kind you keep kittens IN, not the kind you write with)

feeding syringes, bottles, and nipples

money

(I know you know this, but I want people reading to really understand).

Basically, one year ago private nonprofit spay/neuter clinics, other rescue nonprofits, and TNR trappers were both more or less grounded, as their legal status re:essential services was up for debate.

When bog standard vet clinics were given the green light, regular veterinary capacity diminished because of their need to meet new safety standards. So you had

1. Basically zero nonprofit clinics

2. Basically zero trapping

3. Incredibly reduced capacity for for-profit care

And it got cleared up eventually. It was a confusing time. But remember when the lockdown first hit? In March?

Y’know, the start of kitten season?

The confusing “can we operate? guess we’ll wait and see. gosh you can’t even find a single spay appointment huh” time last year happened to correspond pretty directly to what is usually our busiest trapping season.

The kitten season we are seeing this year, which is SO BAD, and seems to be SO BAD literally across the country, is what happens when volunteers and underpaid animal rescuers take a single kitten season off.

All the kitten that were born last year that would’ve been trapped and homed and their mothers spayed were instead… left to roam and grow up and now it’s their first kitten season as breeding adults and as a result the rescue community, under-supported most of the time, is just completely overwhelmed.

So, hey, if you’re reading this: Go donate to a cat rescue or animal shelter. Do it right now. And you know what’s even better than donating? Volunteering to foster. It’s rewarding, it’s fun, it’s all the benefits of getting a cat or kitten without the long term commitment. And it will literally save lives. Every rescue we know right now would commit crimes for more reliable fosters.

And most rescues will help you cover basic food costs and supplies, so you don’t even need money, just space. (And that’s why, if you can’t foster, donations help! So that rescues can do that for their fosters!)

If you can’t foster and you can’t donate, at least boost this.

1. Become aware of how and when you tearing yourself down.

2. Now that you can catch yourself doing it. Offer counters to the negative self talk. A really useful thing I read was to talk to yourself almost the way you would child. Gentle and patient. Even when they fuck up.

3. Take time to celebrate your small accomplishments. You’ve been attacking yourself for every little mistake. Apply that same fervor to the positive things in your life. Did the dishes even though you didn’t want to? Fuck yeah! Got up and took shower? YES!!! You are taking positive steps to feeling better. Celebrate it.

4. Make lists of things you’re good at/ like about yourself. The first time I did this the only two things in my list we’re that I liked my hair and I had good friends. It was start.

5. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up steps 1-4. It’s counter productive. When I catch myself calling my self stupid for some mistake or other my response now is,“We don’t talk to ourselves like that anymore. What’s something constructive that could actually help solve the problem.”

Most of the time that seems to work. Not always. But more and more Everytime.

I love you too.

“Scrappy baby.” “screppy.” “Scrappy Baby.” “screppy beeb.” “Scrappy BABY.” “screppy BABYBABYBABYBABYBABYBABY”

Suki: but you’re the Fire Lord

Zuko: yeah but I can’t legalise weed overnight

Suki: wow Zuko. you’re really. burning down my dreams

Zuko:

Suki: it’s almost like

Zuko: suki

Suki: it’s just it reminds me of the time