and i simply cannot bear resignation

happy pride edition of this post lol. wont bog down the post explaining our situation, but we still need consistent help affording all our living expenses. my wife works but her job pays shit and i am trying to find work to no avail. i have the usual pay apps, as does my wife. we also have other options (like our patreon for monthly bills) and our registry if u wanna support that way. please consider helping make two struggling black queer folks' lives easier this pride month 🩷

$232.25/$1252.24 (due in 17 days)

$0/$125 (for transportation+job prep related expenses)

The rest of you can (and really ought to!) reblog, but it's not your turn to talk. Just listen and reflect!

What DOES a good apology for antiblackness look like, to you?

Not a shitty twitter apology that dodges accountability. Not a genuine apology made to white fans to soothe their embarrassment and egos and maintain white solidarity.

What does an ACTUAL apology for antiblackness consist of, to you?

What actions do you need to see from people who claim to be better, to deserve your support despite a history of being unsafe?

Why do you think nonblack people feel they're entitled to grace, and what would actually EARN them your grace? What makes you not want to offer it at all?

after that, I'd like to see that remorse in the form of further action. as you say, to be anti-racist is to put in CONSTANT work. if you really want to atone - put in the work. read more about racism and antiblackness. educate your peers around you who exhibit antiblack behavior if you can - or cut them off, if you can't. make more effort to uplift the Black fans in your fandom circles, if the antiblackness they have to deal with on the regular hasn't pushed them out - share their art, their stories. stand up for them. fight for them.

and understand that in spite of doing all of this - there will be Black people who will not forgive you. there will be Black people who will not be able to trust you. and you shouldn't let that hinder you in your efforts to better yourself in becoming a stronger ally for the people you hurt.

BOMOKO NI (Northern Ireland Refugees and Asylum Seekers Women Association)

City of Sanctuary Belfast [donate here]

Embrace NI

Migrant Centre NI

Starling Collective

Anaka Women's Collective are running a Chuffed fundraiser: