It’s important to remember that love portrayed in movies and media is often over-exaggerated! In real life, you’ll get angry at your partner, or irritated, or bored. But that doesn’t mean you don’t love them. Love and relationships require work and commitment, and as long as you are willing to keep moving forward with them then that’s all that matters.
I know I struggled with not contantly being in “love,” I thought something was wrong with me. I thought if I wasn’t constantly feeling good feelings toward my partner then it meant that the relationship was over. But that’s not how it actually is! Truth be told I was happy with my partner, but it took a while for me to realize that it’s okay to feel angry or irritated with them too. It’s okay to get some alone time. It’s okay to want space.
Getting over this anxiety and rOCD takes time, and there will always be setbacks or bad moments, but realize that there will also be good days! There will be good weeks and good months! As hard as it is, don’t focus too much on the negative. Try to talk it out with your partner, your friend, your therapist, or whoever you trust. Everything will be okay, even if it doesn’t always feel like it.
