Bob's LGBTQQA Support Blog

Mom / dad. Me

Everyday we see things and hear things that bother us We see people bullied over things they have no control over like what they like and most of us say nothing out of fear. Because we are too afraid to take a stand, to afraid that lmight get bullied for standing up and saying stop it. Some us are to afraid to be who we are because we might get judge or rejected but the truth is that real friend someone who really cares about you would never do that and anyone who does is just insecure and afraid. Well i’m through being afraid Most importantly from now i’m going to be my self and find friends who accept me for who which includes

Mom dad

I am ______

I’ve been wanting to talk to you about this please don’t push me out of your life. I can no longer bear the burden of lying to you. I love you

Bob says:

Read this twice absorb what this young man did to come out!

Caring love,

Bob

I asked him how it went and he says went well! This is well thought out and delivered face to face.

Great job and just another way to get the monkey off your backs.

Well done Trev!

You do NOT have to be or feel alone!

Of course I would help this youngman and his attackers too! 

I talk to a lot of people needing support advice and encouragement. You are all invited as it is what I do for you!

I came out to my family late in my teens and that is forty plus years ago! My father used to say this as well but because he was as supporting he could be with the limited knowledge he had I felt even today he still said this out of love.  I realize that is not always the case especially today with better understanding what LGBTQQA are and go through.  If you need help in teach others who do not already know get them printed materials from online or a group like PFLAG.   Formerly known as Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, is the United States' largest organization for parents, families, friends, and allies united with people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ). https://www.pflag.org I say this ready to help you in any supportive way I can!

You wanna know what happens once you kill yourself? Your mother comes home from work and finds her baby dead and she screams and runs over to you and tries to get you to wake up but you won’t and she keeps screaming and shaking you and her tears are dripping onto your face and your dad hears all the screaming and runs into the room and he can’t even speak because the child that he loved and the child that he watched grow up is gone forever and finally your little sister runs into the room to see what all the fuss is about and she sees you dead. The person she looked up to and loved. The person she bragged about to  her friends, the person she wanted to be just like when she grew up, the person that made her feel safe. But she’s never really going to get to grow up and smile and laugh and love because she’ll always be consumed with this feeling of missing you. And now there’s something missing from your family and they can barely look at each other anymore because everything reminds them of you but you’re gone and hurts more than anything. and you think that your mom never cared because she was always busy and yelling at you to finish your homework and clean your room and forgot to say I love you sometimes but really, she loved you more than anything and she doesn’t leave the house anymore, she can’t even get out of bed and she’s getting thinner and thinner because it’s too hard to eat. Your father had to quit his job and he doesn’t sleep anymore, every time he closes his eyes he sees his baby dead, and the image never goes away no matter how much alcohol he drinks. And at school your best friend sees that your seat is empty and she gets this sick feeling in her stomach and that’s when she hears the announcement. You killed yourself. And suddenly she’s screaming and crying in the middle of class and no one even bothers comforting because they’re all  busy sitting there staring at your empty seat with tears dripping down their cheeks and all she wants is for you to hug her and tell her it’s gonna be okay like you always did, but this time, you’re not there to do it, everything is dark now that you’re gone and her grades are slipping, she barely goes to school anymore and she ended up in hospital after taking too many pills because she wanted to see you again. the girls who used to make fun of the way you dressed feel their throats get tight, they don’t talk to each other anymore, they don’t talk to anyone, they’re all in therapy trying so hard not to blame themselves but nothing works. and your teacher who always gave you a hard time stares blankly at the wall, she quits her job a few days later. And then your boyfriend hears the news and he can’t breathe, he still calls you a lot just to hear your voice and he talks to you on facebook but you never message him back, he can’t fall in love again because every girl he meets reminds him of you, he’s never going to get over you, he loved you and he cries himself to sleep every night, hating himself and slicing his skin because he couldn’t save you and he’s never going to hold you in his arms or hear you laugh again. Now everyone who knew you, whether they were a big part of your life or someone you passed in the hallway a few times a week, they carry this aching feeling around inside them because you’re gone, and they miss you, and they don’t know why you left but it must’ve been their fault and they should’ve stopped you and they should’ve told you they loved you more and that feeling is never going to go away. And so you killed yourself

Share with those who are bullied and need support and be sure to offer your support to them if not Offer me I will talk to anyone in pain! The reason I said read it again is this writing has a very deep and important message. Only one person is likely buried yet the pain is felt by more then you can imagine. Each person that loves you, likes you even knows you will be saddened by this painful news then think of the people that know them, love them, like them it just doesn’t end with the one loss! If you know some one in pain talk to them be supportive to them BE THERE for them it will make a difference. If for any reason you can not do it do the next best thing is get them to talk to some one (me included).

Always.

If you don’t reblog, you have no heart. It wont kill you to have this on your tumblr.

It is my view that even one life lost to bullying is 1 to many! It has got to stop. Do not ignore the act of bullying get both the attacked and the attacker help, Please immediately. If you are either and want to talk I will talk to you lift your spirits and do what I can to reduce your pain. If you do NOT understand why I say help the attacker ask me to explain it, I shall!

Always.

If you don’t reblog, you have no heart. It wont kill you to have this on your tumblr.