Throwing all my troubles on a burning pile!

Heyo!

My favorite serious quote is:

“I’d prefer to be loved. I would, but if you take that away from me, well, being feared is A-one okey doke by me."

My favorite silly quote is:

“ you are DARK….and I KINDA like it…”

Or

“Look pretty, smile, say my lines, whoop whoop whoop”

But what I find most attractive about him?

Well I’m into blondes— but that’s besides the point 😭

I think just the general scariness and the way he presents himself. He’s so imposing. And at the same time we know it’s just an act. He puts EFFORT in how he wants to be perceived and just in general I think that’s pretty hot.

Those are some great answers, ty for the response!

My favorite quote out of the ones you listed is definitely "you are dark and i kinda like it" because it feels like something he'd tell me if he knew me LMAO but all of those quotes are such good Homelanderisms and i respect those choices so much

Also I totally agree that his intentionality is definitely a massive part of what makes him attractive. He's such a peacock! 🤭🦚

Already jealous to whom win the auction of the suit!

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⋆｡𖦹°‧★ The reality of a relationship with Ben is that his mindset is wildly antiquated despite his physique. You're constantly correcting his politics and tactless straight talks. Whip him into shape or else he'll never learn.

⋆｡𖦹°‧★ He loves the contrast of your youth to his own experience and frequently uses that dynamic to spice things up in the bedroom. He’s a total freak who loves to roleplay, and being in a position of absolute power charges him up.

⋆｡𖦹°‧★ He likes to reminisce about his long list of past sexual exploits, the different positions he's tried, and the variety of kinks he's catered to over the years. He knows exactly what he likes, but he wants you to figure out what you're into as well, and prides himself on being your instructor.

⋆｡𖦹°‧★ He carries a bitter, underlying insecurity about how fast the world moved on without him, which often manifests as a nasty streak of possessiveness over you. You need to set strict boundaries from the start. If nothing else, he respects your defiance.

⋆｡𖦹°‧★ He loves introducing you to the pop culture of his past and finds joy in reconnecting with music and films that have otherwise been long forgotten. He gets a kick out of your interest in his history and feels important when he can answer your questions and crack down on misinformation.

⋆｡𖦹°‧★ Outwardly, Soldier Boy treats your youth as a trophy to validate his masculinity, but his behavior stems from a subconscious desire to be entirely indispensable. To maintain his sense of purpose, he needs a partner who is completely dependent on him for protection and stability. Dominating you and positioning himself as your sole provider satisfies that need and reinforces his role in a modern world that otherwise has no use for him.

⋆｡𖦹°‧★ Just love the man and show him genuine care. In his own brusque manner, he'll always return the favor.

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My f/o list is a mess. They're all villains or extremely morally complex protagonists who act as villains:

Homelander is a literal fascist

Soldier Boy is an American military propaganda icon with ancient deepset toxic masculinity

Bro Strider is canonically abusive towards Dave and physically fights him on the roof to "train" him as a literal child

Dirk Strider has controlling aspects and unhealthy romantic relationships, and if you consider the Homestuck epilogues and HS2 as canon, he becomes a literal mind influencing supervillain

Dean Winchester is extremely codependent, does not wait for consent to "save" people and is also canonically physically abusive towards Sam (even if the times it happened was played as a joke. Bravo kripke etc.)

Tabitha Scarlet is an actual coal baronness who plans to kidnap her cousin to "save her town"

Anyways as a fellow Homelander selfshipper, I thought you might like this song-- it very much fits the theme of what you're saying. Ive been listening to this track a lot lately, it's on my Homelander selfship playlist (that I will post at some point!)

Blondeshell - Sepsis (spotify)

Ok so lemme answer this bit by bit--

My gender presentation: I ID as male, nonbinary and genderfluid. Even though that technically means 'woman' is on the table it often feels like more of a performance-- but not always. I'm plural with members of various genders, so it's complicated.

Maybe someday i will describe this as "always male and nonbinary, woman only when funny/convenient/i feel like it" but im not nearly there. So, i only prefer people seeing me and/or referring to me as nonbinary or male w the exception of my partner because he really understands us/our system.

I generally present as masc/androgynous but ive been wanting to experiment with fem stuff a bit more-- and i have been!

My selfship blog: definitely going to be written from a disabled, queer, genderfluid and transmasculine perspective!

I think those perspectives are sorely lacking for many character imagines-- *especially* for Homelander. Homelander himself is a treasure trove of things that make him so damn interesting with a disabled transmasculine partner-- his bigotry, his internalized queerphobia. There is so much you can do there, especially considering his volatility.

He is equally as intriguing as the most performative, capitalistic LGBT ally and as someone who has fallen for a trans person, can't accept it, and tries to force them to change fundamentally what they are to fit the straight image he has of himself. (tv series version of Homelander, at least!)

And for other characters I have been crushing over, it is also simply ground that hasn't been explored much. So I hope people find that interesting if they happen upon my selfship blog uwu

My type: MY PARTNER!!! no but seriously?? He does check so many boxes. I've always liked brown eyes, and his look so warm in the sunlight, as does his skin. He has such nice broad shoulders too. Oh and he's the perfect height for me to tuck my chin on!!! And gives amazing hugs. He is intense, loyal, protective and passionate-- all traits that are very attractive to me. He has the personality of a very loyal, very anxious chihuahua that I want to carry in my purse all day, and i love that about him. And he contains multitudes just like me. Im really glad we found each other

Im bi but i usually go for men and i ✅️ love ✅️✅️ pretty boys ✅️✅️✅️. My type is fruity for sure. Def usually more into twinks, twunks and hunks than otters and bears, though they are valid asf. As for gals? I mean there's a lot of different types of women I like. I usually like butches more but femmes are so gorgeous aaaa. And nonbinary people? Hello? HELLO??? GORGEOUS. Tbh its more about the dominant energy overall. Im a lil guy.

As for fiction, I mean-- I love crazy! I love yanderes! I love emotionally repressed characters, and the ones who make you feel like you're the only one alive who matters. And apparently I go for blond(e)s a lot but I think that's more of a coincidence of the 'dangerous blonde' trope simply fitting what i like in fiction!

I imagine him meeting my bi genderfluid self-insert and either being like "ah, so you see, I am an Ally.tm" and going on to be the most performative, self-centered, im-not-bi-or-demi-i-swear-im-JUST-A-GOOD-ALLY thing about it. Insisting to be in the pride parade-- no, insisting to LEAD the pride parade and IT ENDS AT VOUGHT TOWER.

The alternative route I imagine is that he sees the genderfluidity and bisexuality as something to "fix" and that plays heavily into his power and savior fantasies... but thats for another post ;3

Feel free to reblog with your own F/Os

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1. What kinks does your F/O have? Do they have any particular favorites? Maybe a list from most liked to meh?

2. Does your F/O have any limits? Is it a long list or short?

3. Would you describe your F/O as very kinky? Do they lean more vanilla in terms of kink?

4. Is your F/O an experimentalist? Would they be open to trying anything/most things?

5. Is your F/O into bondage? If so feel free to elaborate!

6. Is your F/O into choking? Do they enjoy being choked, doing the choking perhaps?

7. Is your F/O a dom or sub or a switch? (Does not mean top or bottom)

8. Do you have a D/S dynamic with your F/O? What does/would it look like if you have/had one?

9. Do you participate in BDSM with your F/O? Any particular dynamics that stand out to you?

10. What does your F/O think of pet play?

11. Would your F/O ever own a collar? Would they use it on you or on themselves?

12. How does your F/O feel about toys? Any favorites?

13. What about sadism/masochism? Do they like giving or receiving pain?

14. Is age play something your F/O enjoys?

15. Is your F/O more of a caregiver type? Are they the type to take care of you in sexual situations?

16. Is your F/O a brat? Do they get away with it or do they need to be put in their place?

17. What about a brat tamer? Can your F/O tame brats, or do they enjoy obedience? Maybe neither?

18. Does your F/O like any "taboo" kinks? What do they consider "taboo" in terms of kink?

19. How horny is your F/O? Everyday, often, occasionally, rarely, etc? Elaborate!

20. What is a major turn on for your F/O? Is it a kink? Maybe something innocent? Traditional foreplay?

21. How does your F/O kiss? Do they like make out sessions?

22. What positions does your F/O enjoy? Do they have favorites? Have they ever tried more than one?

23. Would your F/O ever do public play? Do they have exhibitionist tendencies or are they incredibly private?

24. Is your F/O into voyeurism? How far would they be willing to go if yes?

25. Is impact play on the table? If so, what would your F/O enjoy? What are their limits?

26. Does your F/O leave marks during sex? If yes what type? Do they make sure they last long? Do they make them impossible to hide?

27. Would your F/O ever get bloody during sex? If so, why and how?

28. Is your F/O a fan of weapon play? If so, what weapons do they enjoy using/ being used on them during the act?

29. Does your F/O like to do kinky/BDSM scenes?

30. If applicable, does your F/O plan out play scenes? Are they spontaneous and excitable, or do they take great care in the details?

31. What does aftercare look like with your F/O? How do they provide aftercare? What aftercare do they need for themselves?

32. Is your F/O emotional during sex? Are they crying to you about love and smothering you in affection?

33. What about closed off? Is your F/O emotionally reserved during sex? If so, why is that?

34. What does your F/O sound like during sex? Are they loud? Do they cover their mouth or hide their noises if so?

35. Is your F/O insecure about any part of themselves? If so, why? What do they do to feel better about it?

36. What makes your F/O flustered?

37. How does your F/O react when flustered or embarrassed?

38. Does your F/O enjoy degrading/being degraded?

39. Clothes on or off during sex?

40. Does your F/O have any outfits they’d wear during sex? A uniform, lingerie, leather, etc?

41. Would your F/O like to see you in any outfits? What would turn them on and why?

42. Where does your F/O enjoy having sex? What's the most unusual place they'd have sex if given the opportunity?

43. What does your F/O do when they cum? Elaborate!

44. Would your F/O ever have a threesome or moresome? If so, with who?

45. Does your F/O like teasing? Or would they rather get on with it right away?

46. How eager is your F/O for sex? Are they always ready or is it merely a passing thought?

47. Does your F/O like praise? Would they enjoy being praised or praising you more?

48. Can your F/O handle being restrained? Is it exciting for them or miserable?

49. Would your F/O let you use them? Riding, cockwarming, using toys on them, etc? Elaborate!

50. ls your F/O into CNC? If yes, what are their favorite aspects of it?

51. Would your F/O use you during sex? If so, how would they do that?

52. Is your F/O into rough sex? Are they man handling you or treating you gently?

53. Does your F/O enjoy titles during sex? Do these titles extend into scenes or day to day life?

54. Would your F/O be into monsters/monster fucking?

55. If applicable, what monster would your F/O fuck or turn into?

56. Does your F/O have a breeding kink? How does that manifest for them?

57. Free Question! (Please respect who ever you are asking. Read intros and boundaries before asking anything!)

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It's currently being made btw

Expect there to be some a lot of dark topics. Said topics will have a blacklist tag, and all the tags to blacklist will be able to be found from the pinned post once it's done, so hopefully it will be easy for people to navigate.

Stay tuned! And um-- because i'm too excited to *not* share at least one of the things I've been cooking-- here's one example for the sort of vibe for the blog lol

There's gonna be art, edits, maybe writing? Who knows! Let's find out together d: