Sam realized John and Dean fucked him in the same dominant style, but Dean was noticeably rougher. Also Dean loves biting him, while John preferres to kiss

people who claim that dean has never been physically or emotionally abusive to sam disgust me. what you are doing is actively trying to invalidate experience of victims of domestic abuse. the fact that dean and sam are siblings does not erase the abuse and power imbalance in their relationship.

This, having worked briefly as a crisis counsellor for victims of family abuse the relationship Dean has a classic control/abuse/ownership dynamic towards Sam that we see in abusive relationships. Sam has classic PTSD and withdrawal of an abuse victim. People who deny this are 100% invalidating victims of abuse and excusing it the same way the abuser does. It should not even be a discussion, let alone flat out denied by a large section of fandom.

Dean fucked Sam in a Full Nelson while standing, loving the way he could remind Sam and flex: “yeah, you’re big and tall, but I can still carry and fuck you without breaking a sweat.”

i've seen several posts portraying soulless sam as somehow allegorically sexually abusive because he asks questions about the aliens and oberon and puts a hand on deans thigh. and i just think this characterization of him as a perpetrator is real interesting, because soulless sam is the victim of some of the most explicitly rape-coded scenes and comments in the whole damn show; from being told his soul is being gangbanged in hell to being tied up, pleading for dean to not let death put that thing inside him, screaming no, stop, don't touch me, please don't, you don't know what will happen to me, dean, dont! like, somehow, a bunch of you looked at soulless sam walking around half a season being told he's nothing but the devils used up sextoy and that if he ever remembers this horrific sexual trauma it will literally tear him apart and thought to yourself; damn, i really think the real rape allegory being told this season is that sam is sexually predatory towards dean. insane, imo.