Chelsey

basically in the replies of this post he pulled the b-b-but trans men can get pregnant! he literally said, "Trans men can literally get forcefully detransitoned through unwanted pregnancy. Explain how a trans woman would be affected in the same way. Explain."

so i explained, hit him with the, "again, not unique. adding pregnancy does not make it unique, it's just "err, haha tmas can't get pregnant, so this violence is purely unique and transandrophobia" which is the line of thought you get when you don't break down what type of violence it is. it is reproductive violence and forceful detransitioning which both transfems and women and transmascs and men experience" and the "this is not a unique transmasc or man oppression. this is misogyny targeting people perceived as female. the fact that you are a man is isn't relevant to the system doing this to you. the system does not see you as a man, just as someone who can give birth. which it does with cis women and others with the ability to give birth. calling this transandrophobia is literally just rebranding misogyny with a "but it also happened to me so it's special" sticker. a transfem can be forcibly detransitioned through denial of hormone therapy. a trans woman can be thrown into a men's prison where her estrogen is confiscated and her body is forcibly remasculinized by testosterone production she cannot stop, and in this prison she will be raped and face incredible violence. a transfem can be homeless, or trapped in an abusive situation where her access to transition is severed and she watches her body betray her every single day. a transfem can be raped and forced to "father" a child. she also gets so see how her body is a betrayal to herself, she gets her ability to reproduce used as violence against her. this isn't even mentioning the many places where she may have to give sperm to a bank so she could then get sterilized so she could actually receive the care she needs. but when it happens to trans men it needs its own special term and framework and discourse because god forbid trans men share an oppression category with women for even one second. god forbid transmascs and men admit that they don't need terms that are supposed to be the mirror opposite transmisogyny and transfem experiences, especially when the terms they're using have no basis and also have no unique oppression that it describes."

then im blocked, like no surprise and good riddance, but my explanation has been hidden or removed too, so this post exists now

❝Transgender women in the study group suffered 8x times as many head injuries as the controls, 36x as many facial injuries, and 5x times as many chest injuries.❞

For all those wondering why the title doesn't say this, it's because the study doesn't say this either.

While the cause of the injuries may be obvious, it's not technically known, and science speaks for what is known.

A transmasc drag queen made a call-out post about how a newly-out local trans woman is a sexual predator. (The sexual offence was that, 6 years ago, before she came out, she was at a drag show with the drag queen (who was her friend at the time) and joked that the drag queen's makeup looked a bit like semen.) The trans woman spiralled, got drunk, got hit by a car, and is currently in hospital.

A newly-out trans woman and a trans man met at a local trans support group. They decided to meet up again at a local pub. She apparently asked questions about his transition that he considered invasive, and in a voice that was too loud and risked outing him to other people in the venue. She now faces being banned from the support group.

The only trans woman who volunteers to run that support group is being kicked off the team by the trans man who is in charge of it. The reason is that she once told the guy in charge to "stop talking" when he was giving her several instructions at once, and also that a different transmasc volunteer has said they find her "creepy" and don't want to be alone with her.

All three trans women are autistic, isolated, and don't have much practice with irl socialising. Maybe they're a little bit loud, maybe a little bit abrasive, maybe they misjudge the appropriateness of sexual comment to a friend at a drag show, maybe they're too keen to make a new friend that they get excitable and speak too loud and ask too many questions, maybe they get overstimulated by being told too many instructions and need you to stop for a second to give them space.

Maybe their behaviour that you consider weird and unsettling is actually a trauma response to a childhood and adolescence of isolation and bullying.

And you know what the funny thing is? I have been sexually harassed at a drag show by the drag queen in (1), who was performing and making sexual jokes about various people in the audience. I have been in a public place with the trans man in (2) while he asked me loud invasive questions about my HRT regimen and about child abuse I suffered. And I have been misgendered and deadnamed repeatedly by the trans man in (3).

And do you know what I did about any of these things? Nothing, beyond saying "Hey, I'd appreciate if you don't do that next time 👍 No hard feelings 🙂". Because, not only am I aware that people make mistakes, and I consider trans men and transmascs a vulnerable demographic and it would be a totally unjust overreaction from me to attempt to socially isolate them for these offences.

But also, I don't have the social power to do anything about these things anyway, even if I wanted to. My normal response to experiencing even serious abuse at a queer event is to simply stop attending it, isolating myself, and perhaps telling a few close friends about it. Because I already know that my complaints will not be taken seriously.

And listing both "transandrophobia" and "transmisandry" at the top of the list with no mention of transmisogyny at all.

this is something that I wish people would take more seriously. I am a woman who loves women and no one else. that's my sexual orientation. I didn't pick it, it's just who I am.

there's currently no single word I can use to communicate that. when I say I'm lesbian, queer people consistently assume that I mean it in the most expansive way possible.

and no one wants to say it, but the reality of what's happening when people make those assumptions is that they hear the word "lesbian" and replace it with the word "bisexual." they think I'm attracted to all genders, even men, as long as they're the good kind (AFAB).

the problem with this, which should be obvious, is the misogyny. people don't want to accept that a woman could ever be satisfied by only loving other women. they have to squeeze other genders in there to make it make sense to them. and they have to push the limits of lesbianism to include people who are more and more in proximity to manhood until it's assumed as a matter of cour that lesbians are all attracted to men.

we're already very far down that road. I can't call myself a lesbian without having people make all kinds of wild and wrong assumptions about who I am and who I'm open to dating (which leads to sexual harassment and feeds into all other kinds of misogyny that women face from the rest of the queer community).

I don't know whether the right way to reduce the harm here is to push back on the idea that men can be lesbians, or to come up with a new word that specifically means women who love women, or both. If there's a new word then it'll be corrupted sooner or later. That's already happened with sapphic, and, incredibly, "WLW".