readyletzgrowpodcast

I had no idea he was gay but he was married to a man named Tristan Kern de Gonzales (on valentines day 2025!)

They lived in San Antonio Texas where his family is from and he grew up. He was 59.

In Janurary 2025 his home was burned down which made news. It killed some of his beloved dogs. He didnt elaborate beyond he believed it was arson (gofundme is still up and i suggest donating to help his funeral costs and his husband

)

Now we know he and his husband had been threatened by several neighbors for being queer. They told pigs, pigs being pigs did nothing before or after it happened.

Yesterday Joss and his husband went to check their mailbox wherein they found one of their dogs skulls (statement from his husband

)

As they weeped and mourned in shock, a neighbor, Sigfredo Alvarez Ceja, came out and aimed at de Gonzales…but Hoss jumped in front of the bullet and was instantly killed.

Ceja, homophobia murdering coward, tried to take off but de Gonzales had called pigs who vaguely tried to do something. He was arrested and his bail set for $200k. Or as my sister said who the fuck sets bail for a murderer?

San Antonio.

De Gonzales is clearly mourning, posting pics on Hoss’ fb page. This one really struck me

This is why we need pride people, and not rainbow capitalism. Please donate to the gofundme and let san antonio cops knows what you think. De Gonzales said multiple neighbors had threatened them…id like to see those people investigated for arson.

Alt Text / Image Description below

To do or not to do?

Pacing and Activity Decision Chart*

A. Will it cause so much pain or fatigue that I can't function for days?

If NO then :

B. Given current symptoms will I be able to complete the task?

(If you answer YES to question B go to D, if NO then go to C)

If YES then :

C. Can I make it manageable by:

Splitting the task into smaller sections?

OR

Using an adaptation or aid to make it easier?

OR

Asking for help with challenging parts of the activity?

(If you answer YES to C go straight to D)

D. Is there enough recovery time between now and when I next need to function?

If you answer YES/PROBABLY to D then LET'S DO

THIS THING!

If you answer NO to both question C and D then:

Best not. It's OK for an emergency, but not for routine tasks.

Disclaimer:

*A simplified version, The full version would fill a book. Process varies between individuals.

**Most activity can aggravate symptoms, so it's not about avoiding pain and fatigue, but trying to keep them manageable. Trial and error is required to find this level and it can change over time.