Would you be prepared if gravity reversed itself?

ok so its soo hard finding kkbb fan media online bc a) its an old fandom and b) the tagging systems are so ASS compared to ao3

so i created a lil site to archive a bunch of art, fics and more :3

It's always under the pretense of "I'm not here to tell you what to do," but the implication is always "if you did interrogate why you're kinky, you'd realise it's for misogyny/internalised misogyny reasons and you'd stop." If you told them "actually, I did interrogate why I'm kinky, and I've concluded that it's not for misogyny reasons and I'm not contributing to patriarchy by being kinky," they wouldn't be satisfied with that answer.

I'd seriously rather them just say "all kink is irredeemably misogynistic and there is no way to be kinky without contributing to patriarchy." At least it's honest about their actual beliefs.

What particularly annoys me is the idea that "kink critical" people have anything to say about kink that hasn't already been said by kinky people. Almost no one is claiming kink can never be a reflection of misogyny, racism, or any other -ism. Almost no one is claiming kink can never be a tool of abusers. I guarantee whatever critique of kink "kink critical" people have has already been well-discussed by the kink community lol. I guarantee almost every kinky person on the planet has agonised about why they're kinky. And in most circumstances, it is in fact the deeply ashamed, deeply repressed kinksters that are most likely to hurt others, not the self-accepting kinksters.

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for the love of fuck why is the shaving argument such a thing right now. "you shave because it appeals to men." i started shaving my entire body when i was thirteen because i developed a bit called the worm cosplay where i'd shave then roll around on my bed sheets like a worm because it amused me. still does, quite frankly.

i don't mind the feeling of my arm hair but my leg hair pisses me off. and that starts the "sensory issues doesn't work as an excuse because why don't you go bald."

NOTP: the opposite of an OTP (One True Pairing). It is a ship a fan strongly dislikes. The word is a portmanteau of ‘no’ and ‘OTP’ and thus is not a contraction of any particular phrase.

Squick: anything that is a deep-seated, visceral turn-off. Squicks may be shared by many fans or be specific to one; one person’s kink may be another person’s squick.

YKINMKATO, or kink-tomato: Your Kink Is Not My Kink, And That’s Okay: used to indicate support for fannish diversity and to distinguish between disapproval or kink shaming and simply having different taste.

DLDR: Don’t Like, Don’t Read: a phrase used to warn against complaints about an aspect of fic or meta. A “live and let live” philosophy of fandom, which places the responsability for avoiding content one doesn’t want to see on the side of the fanwork consumer, rather that on the creator’s.

SALS: Ship And Let Ship: similar to the above specifically about shipping tastes.

YMMV: Your Mileage May Vary: a phrase used to acknowledge that any given individual’s personal opinion on the topic at hand may differ due to their own tastes, standards, values, experiences, etc.

As the OP points out, all of these crucially imply no moral judgment of what they’re designing.