11 WAYS TO GET OVER A BAD BREAK UP AND MOVE ON
Hey, I know it’s Monday and ought to signify a new beginning. New beginning comes easy when it has to do with every other thing except your emotions. When you have to move on and act like someone that was a very important part of you no longer matters, when they suddenly asked to become a stranger. Sometimes you might even be the one doing the break up probably because they have been such a jerk/bitch and you have held on for so long a time that you can no longer take their bull shit.
Have got tips for you on how to get over a bad break up. Sit up, Rest your back on the pillow, sip a coffee and continue reading. Wait a minute…. Did I just say “bad break up”? Break ups are never good are they? Anyways…just follow the tips
• Cry: Yes I mean it! Cry so hard. It does not matter how the break up conversation went, just go home or go to a dear friend if you have one and cry on his/her shoulders. Mourn the bae…cos baygon. lol really…mourn the exit of your now ex. Go over the relationship again. Remember the things that made you laugh or cry. Laugh at the dumbest things you said while in the relationship. Knock yourself for believing him when he said the side chick (he is now with) was just a fling. Just laugh as hard as you cry. And if there was nothing to laugh about? Well, when you done crying,
• Take a shower: Yea, take a shower. Stay long under the shower (If your shower reminds you of him/her, you might wanna cry again or just go bathe outside *shrugs*) Just make sure you calm before you step out of the shower.
Do not fight dirty : Do not fight your ex, Do not resolve to insulting or abusing them wherever you see them. Do not harass the new bae. It only portrays you as desperate and unquote. If you’ve done it… I am not sure you should find a way to apologize, but am Sure you should STOP IT!!!
• Evaluate: Go over his/her messages, your chats, gift exchange etc… evaluate your relationship. Ask yourself what went wrong. In case he/she told you the “It’s me, not you. You are perfect” story. Tell yourself the truth. If you are too sorrowful, you can’t think straight, wash your face, beat your face with some color, get dressed and get out. Go somewhere beautiful. (Hopefully everywhere you can go doesn’t have his/her scents all over it. If it does, well…time to explore. Get to know new places) Just ensure you are out there not fully thinking about him. Enjoy the beauty of your new adventure.
• Write: Whatever comes to mind, write them down. The beautiful thing about break up is that it helps you discover new things about you. You may end up being a great motivational or relationship speaker/ writer; A dream birth from a break up. So write down everything that comes to mind. Keep the book away. It will help you understand later.
• NO!! Rebound : Do not make the mistake of going on a rebound mission. Rebound relationships are believed to be short-lived due to one partner's emotional instability and desire to distract themselves from a painful break up. Do not break a heart while you are in the process of healing.
• NO!!Good girl/boy gone bad: Nothing like that. Good people do not go bad. You may conclude that you were heartbroken because you are too understanding or “perfect”. Even if that be the case, you can’t change who you are as a result of this break up. You shouldn’t!!! Remember, who you are, is to suit your purpose of existence. You can’t afford to give that up.
•Travel/Relocate: If your ex is written all over your place and places you visit, you may need to discover and visit new places. In extreme cases you may need to relocate.
• If they are asking to remain your friend, you will need time to heal before you can actually grant that request. i.e if you wish to. Such friendship should be with huge limits. If you were ever sexually involved, I would not advise that you grant such request because… (odikwa risky)it’s obviously risky. You may end up having “make up sex” that’ll never really bring about any make up.
• If you suffer any form of abuse in the relationship, stay away from dating for a while. Work on your self confidence, do not throw a pity party, affirm and encourage yourself always. Whenever, you stand in front of the mirror, tell that image you see in the mirror how beautiful he/she is, remind that image of his/her achievements, how strong they are to have pulled through and what exciting stuffs lie ahead for them(you)
• Blossom: Draw closer to God, make new friends, help someone going through a bad break up, help someone break up from an abusive relationship, bring out your note (refer; point no5) and work on the parts of you that need to be worked on. LIVE, LEARN, TEACH and LOVE again.
I wish you a new beginning…
Kindly share with us on how you got over a bad break up (in the comment section). You might be helping someone at the verge of giving up.